Hi! Since my ex broke up with me, I have been struggling with trusting God and knowing His will. And I need help. I can’t find rest and I’m depressed and anxious everyday.
I know my boyfriend was a gift to me from God. There is NO DOUBT. My ex and I had been together for almost 5 years and we loved each other (and maybe still). He broke up with me very suddenly and since then I have managed to become closer to God and His word than ever before. God has showed me why it all went wrong in the end of our relationship.. We didn’t ask for Gods help and He wasn’t our first priority in the end.
I don’t want to tell the whole story, but I’ve had a very hard life, especially the time when I was with my ex. I’ve always had a lot of anxiety everyday and it is really a disorder in my life. And I ‘m even more anxious now since my ex broke up with me.
I have prayed everyday to God to help me get my ex back and prayed for my ex to get closer to God (because right now he isn’t). I know that my ex is struggling with seeing me and finds it hard to talk to me (otherwise I still can’t figure out if I have a chance or not) and it makes the situation even harder for me. I pray as much as I can and have done it for 5 months no. I love my ex so much, it was a choice I took when I said it to him the for the first time. I don’t want to change that. No matter how hard he makes this situation. I can’t nor do I want to live without him.
It is hard for me to figure out what God really CAN do about this situation? Can God help me get my ex back? Is he capable of it when my ex has his free will? Or is He capable of everything, but just don’t want to do anything? What should I think in this situation?
When you all say that I should just trust God, what does it mean? Should I trust that He will help me get my ex back? Or am I praying for something that will never happen?
When in the Bible it says that we shall believe that we will receive, should I then believe in my prayer about God restoring my relationship? I’m very confused and scared. I’m scared that if I put my trust in God and believe that God will give me and my ex another chance, and it ends up not happening. I’m scared that God will disappoint me. And He disappointing me if I put my trust in Him and He won’t help reconciling this broken relationship. I don’t want God to give me another guy. I want to fight for my ex. Like Jesus fought for the love of His people. Jesus of all should understand my pain, and could help me getting my love back.
I’m afraid of Gods will. I am so very afraid that He will give me another guy. I have to get my ex back. I don’t want anyone else. I often feel that God ignores me. That He’s just looking at me crying my heart out. Listening, but not answering me. I want an answer from Him so badly. I want to know what His will is. Still I’m scared.
I know the relationship was from God, and then why wouldn’t He help me reconcile it? God can do all things, why not help me in this? telling me what to do? Or something? I’m hurting so badly everyday and fighting to keep myself up.
Please help me, and please pray for me and the relationship to reconcile.
Sincerely, Hanna
Hi Hannar!
You are on the right path when you say that you have began a relationship with God. This is what’s most important. I had a similar situation just like you. My husband left me suddenly also and started a relationship with another woman. He changed his telephone number and we had no contact.
I prayed and fasted for almost one year and it seemed like God was not moving. Then suddenly my husband got in contact with me and wanted to reconcile. God answers prayer in his timing.
You are not married yet but that does not mean your prayers are less important then mine. However pray for Gods will. Not your will. After being separated from my husband for almost a year I finally asked God to do his will! He knows what’s best for us! Just keep your eyes on God! That’s all you have to do! There is nothing impossible for God!
God is faithful.
He is 🙂
Hello Hanna, I totally agree with McMichael. You will need to submit to God and give Him your all. Pray to God to reveal to you if the relationship is God’s will. I myself am going through something similar. Prayer is the key.I want you to focus on God’s word as you humbly seek him. Read Matthew 6:33. Thanks
Hi Hanna,
I feel your pain and understand what you’re going through.
My wife suddenly wanted a divorce and left me with our kids for close to 2 years now, However before her leaving I wasn’t the best husband – I was unfaithful.
When she left I reconnected with God through His Son Jesus and I know about praying and asking God not to let my wife divorce me, that I want her back and no other “perfect woman”. It was all I prayed for for over a year, yet nothing has changed “seemingly”.
However I’ve learnt that what’s important is what God wants and not what we want. As far as God is concerned, your salvation and personal relationship with Him is more important to Him than your relationship with your ex. I’ve given my will to Him and asked Him to do what He wants to do regarding my marriage – even if it ends in divorce. I know that no matter the end, He is there and will take care of me and my family and give us His peace.
Take heart, be strong, You’ll survive this and be better for it.
God bless.
Gideon.
Hi Hanna,
For some reason I see a rainbow in your life. It’s like the very first rainbow that appeared in the Noah’s Ark story. I then saw you walking on this rainbow and sliding down it on the other side and this rainbow was over the deep waters and floods. So I feel that though you are going through a very hard time, that God is promising fun and joy back into your life as depicted by you sliding down the slide and being a kid again.
God wants to have fun with you. And he wants you to have fun with him. And the funny thing is that when we are kids we don’t usually think so much of the future too much and that we focus on the here and now. And whatever God’s promises that come through, that they just appear to us in an instant, just like when kids focus on playing so much and then our parents surprise us with a treat or a gift that we were not expecting.
God is the God of timing. Even the turtle made it to the ark in time. Although you don’t see it this doesn’t mean His promises are not on their way. I pray that God’s will exceeds your highest expectations and dreams Ephesians 3:20.
Regards,
Anthony
Hi Anthony,
I just loved your comment! Praise God! Specially the part where you say that just as a parent does he will surprise us with the gift! I am waiting on Lord for my rainbow, I am waiting on him for Reconciliation, restoration with my guy. I am waiting for my miracle. Everyday i go visit this site to get encourage and you encouraged me. God bless you brother!
Regards
M
Hanna,
You said you want your ex and don’t want anyone else but what if God has someone else in mind for you? Do you know better than God? God knows and wants what is best for you. Keep that in mind.
Hi honey,
I am literally in the same position as you, literally.
I totally understand the grief you are feeling, my boyfriend split with me in march and since then I had been praying everyday in tears for restoration until recently, I’ve felt God telling me to stop and just trust him, let go and trust in what He will do. God hears you the very first time you pray, He is with you all the time but sometimes He is silent. If you are seeking your ex more than you are Him then its a warning sign and God is a jealous God remember, He is jealous for you.
God revealed Idolatry to me when I asked why He split us up and maybe its something you should ask God Himself? Why the split God? It might help you understand a bit more and understand your circumstances. I know how tough it is, believe me, its the hardest thing I’ve ever been through and I still hate it but be reminded that God can do ANYTHING.
I’m also terrified that Gods will may mean I don’t get to have my ex back in my life but I have to trust that God knows best, it comes in time, being able to surrender and acknowledge that He knows what we want. I would rather be obedient to God than be outside of His will. So think about it, maybe God has rescued you from falling away from Him and needed to remind you who He is, be obedient to discipline if this is what it is because He will bless you.
Pray for God to reveal why He split you and ask for forgiveness, ask Him to restore the relationship if it pleases Him and for Wisdom to know His will.
Lots of love girly. Xx
Just finished a fast to add to my prayer request and waiting on my miracle. The hardest thing to do is waiting on God’s will.