I’m an 18 year old girl attending college this year as a Freshman. I’ve been attending to church since I was a baby and I am having so much trouble focusing my relationship with God. I don’t want to reveal my name but I’ll call myself Candy.
I don’t know where to start and I know this isn’t a testimony, but I really need advice and I want to know what should I do.. you know? But anyways, I am in a relationship with a best friend of mine that I have known for almost 5 years. He is the most sweetest person in the world. People would think we were a couple back in high school because we were always inseparable. We didn’t start dating until our senior year.
Now, to get to what I want to say (pardon my grammar), we’ve only been dating for 7 months and our 8 month anniversary is tomorrow (the 25 of October), but I always question myself “Is he really the one?” He doesn’t go to a Christian church like I do. He was raised as Catholic. Of course I love him so much but I’ve been told that “Pentecostals and Catholics cannot be together due to tons of religious beliefs or few specific holidays (like Halloween).” I really don’t want my boyfriend to be left behind while I want to be saved. Yes, I want to be saved, but it is so hard for me to focus on God so much because I get distracted a lot. Of course I want him to be saved like me and other Christians, but I don’t know how to talk to him… I’m scared he’ll push me away and would not love me anymore. I don’t want us breaking up over religious beliefs.
We love each other so much that I can’t even imagine another girl being with him. I want him to accept Jesus as his savior, but I don’t even know how to do that or convince him to do it without pressuring him. I did ask him to come to church with me but he felt like people would see him as an “outsider” and judge him so easily just because he’s catholic. I explained to him that people in my church would always welcome new people and it doesn’t matter where they come from, everyone is welcome. I told him to think about it and let me know if he really wants to. I really don’t know what to do. Is there anything I could do…? I really don’t want to let this guy go.
well the first thing I would ask is if you are born again or not? Have you received the Spirit truly and repented of your sins?
Secondly is if this young man is saved/born anew by the Holy Ghost or not. (To me it seems he’s not)
So then thirdly the Bible says not to be unequally yolked with unbelievers for what does light have to do with darkness?
Fourth, I do not think “dating” is biblical.. as in, being “a couple” and not being married.
You are either married or not.
You are either committed or not.
It is a huge deal if people’s hearts are intertwined without a commitment, and official witness/marriage before God and man.
It sounds to me like you aren’t born again or are at the least in idolatry, if you do not have God as absolutely first priority in your life.
Who is it you serve? God or satan?
You have to ask and answer that yourself…
As everyone..
I would like to also be clear that there are different types of love, specifically in the Greek language.
There is the love of a father to a child, (paternal) there is love of the romantic kind (eros) and there is pure love the love which is of God (agape-charity)
It is the type of love Christ is and describes. It is of the giving kind.
Now you say you love this person.. well let me say that if you really love you love as Christ and that is selfless and putting salvation and the soul of the other person first. That is to love God..
To be a friend of the world is to be an enemy of God. To be a friend of God is to do Gods work and will on this earth which is to love others and lead/connect others to God (through ones obedience)
Being crucified with Christ is what Paul described this as.. another way it is described is dying to oneself..
So it sounds like you have some serious choice making to do.
God is not a respector of persons remember..
And judgment comes to the house of God first.
Because those who have known God and the way of truth should know better..
Who are you yolked to?
This young man?
Or Christ Jesus the King of Kings?
Hi Candy
Sure you will get a lot of advice. I would just like to share what I believe could be an option but ultimately the decision will be yours to make with the help of the Lord.
I dont normally reply to to these pages but felt a need to respond to yours.
Your life and the way you live it will be the biggest encouragement to your partner irresepctive on what religion or background he is from. Focus on your relationship with Christ and He will give you your Hearts Desire for your partner. Lord Bless you !!
Don’t marry him unless you are both the same faith. A good friend from high school was a Protestant and he fell in love with a Catholic. He married her, even though we were all against it. After the first child was born, the Catholic grandparents insisted on raising it as a Catholic and the Protestant grandparents insisted on raising it as a Protestant. My friend ended up getting a very ugly drawn-out expensive divorce that left him devastated. The Bible warns us not to be unequally yoked together, so don’t do it.
Pray ;)
Pray for his salvation. If God wants you two together it’ll happen. Just focus on your relationship with Jesus. I love a man too but I don’t want to be with him unless he becomes saved.