John 16:24
Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete.
I feel like I don’t know where to start…how did things get this bad? I guess I will start with confession. Many people go through things and blame or see fault in others immediately, but I know that I must first confess to the most high God and repent of all of my sins. God pllllleeeaaasseee forgive ME Lord!
There was a time where I was proud and built up in money and self. Well let me tell you that no one can strip you like God. When he says, enough is enough, you better listen. I did have signs – true Christians telling me what would happen if I didn’t spend more time with my husband, value him more, honor him more. Boy where they right.
I was cold and distant for a while. I just thought about my needs and dreams for our marriage. I didn’t truly open myself to his needs as a man. I thought well why should I satisfy him and make him happy when he isn’t making me happy. All the devil and his workers on this earth need to see is a crack in a door opening and they will move full steam ahead! I give no glory or space to the devil. he is a defeated foe and NO MATTER THE FINAL OUTCOME – I KNOW THAT MY GOD CAN AND WILL DO ANYTHING HE PLEASES FOR HIS GLORY!
When my husband reached out to me after being so closed, I was closed. When I saw that he was leaving me, abandoning ship, I reached out to him… he was/is/seems to be closed. His heart seems to be of stone. He actually told me that I don’t get to have it my way because I now want children and a happy home. Part of what he says about me turning around at the 11h hour is true but guess what, God still wants to get the Glory out of this situation.
I say I feel like I don’t know what to do or say but I do. I know I must pray, fall on my face before God- for direction, guidance, love, emotional fulfillment and complete surrender. Why does it seem so hard to pray at a time where I need God most?
I have been a Christian all my life, now more real but still not perfect. Why can’t I get it together? It’s that I know the way and truly try to live in God’s teachings every day. The wages of sin are death – this is sooo true – I must remember that the gift of God is eternal life through Christ Jesus.
Deuteronomy 8:2
And thou shalt remember all the way which the LORD thy God led thee these forty years in the wilderness, to humble thee, and to prove thee, to know what was in thine heart, whether thou wouldest keep his commandments, or no
I just have to do right; I just have to lift up a standard for Jesus. No matter the outcome as long as his will be done. I love my husband and I didn’t tell him that enough until now. We were married 5 years. He moved out Feb. 9, 2009. He divorced me June 1, 2009.
I was traveling around the world working and spending money. Taking us on lavish trips and shopping sprees and complaining about the income he wasn’t making. He was a bit too comfortable with me being the earner but he was with me as I was acting like head chief!!!
What a foolish mistake.
Now we are not together BUT – we still attend church together every Sunday. He comes to my family affairs. He loves my mom. I didn’t realize my ways until it was soo far off. I looked at his cell phone and saw he was communicating with another woman.
I was devastated. Many would say I drove him to that. Actually, that doesn’t matter, what matters is that I do love him STILL but out communication is glaringly broken/wounded and only God can work this out if it is in his will!
Do you ever feel like you need a sign or to truly hear from the Lord like NOW!!! Well, I GUESS that is me. I am right here now God and I know you have seen it all and I know you love and care for me. Please help me and show me the way. For 2 years now I tried to work it out or work on it – be silent – keep smiling while crying for about a year. I just need an answer to this long suffering. I do see my ways. I know that I too must turn from all evil in vanity and pride.
I am at the lowest place in my life. I know that you are here with me holding me. I’m not even walking at this point – it is you that are carrying me. Help Lord, please help. For my testimony and for your glory – your will be done. That is all I can say. I love you Jesus and I know you love me and will never leave me or forsake me. Thank you for being there for me – through it all. Thank you!
Well, keep me in your prayers and I will pray for you. Please also pray for my ex-husband/my husband? Only God knows the outcome. He is thinking about not coming to church anymore. We all know he needs to assemble himself around true Christians, even if it is not at the church I attend. All of our issues are just right for God. His has the answer to all of our perplexities. He knows us through and through and is waiting for us to confess, be sincere and turn it over to him completely.
It’s yours Lord.
Thank You Our Father. Our Father knows all things and Our Father can do all things. Based on the understanding that Our Father gave me from Above My sisther Our Father has saved your life, Our Father has giving you the free gift of salvation. Our Father has put HIS Fear in you. For over 2 years Our Father has been taking you through the road to sanctification. my sisther as Our Father has made me pray for you now “BY THE POWER THAT IS IN THE BLOOD OF OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST OUR FATHER WILL MAKE YOU SURRENDER ALL UNTO HIM BY THE POWER THAT IS IN THE BLOOD OF OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST AMEN”
my sisther, concerining your ex husband i want you to try and FORGIVE him for all that he has done, remember Our Lord Jesus Christ died for us when we are yet a sinner, He never count our sin before He went to the cross and died so that we can leave.
my sisther i thank OUR FATHER concerning you life…HALLELUYAH
Thank you Wale for your comment and prayer. Be well.
I’ll share a story with you and pray it helps someone else. I was married for 17 years and we have 3 children. I left 9 years ago because I was unhappy and I blamed my unhappiness on my wife. Actually, I blamed my job, the church, God – everyone but me. I was suffering from depression and anxiety.
This had happened to me before, but it had been years since I had experienced any symptoms, and I did not recognize the feelings. I thought God was pushing me in a particular direction and the anxiety was the result of my resistance. Looking back now I think I was wrong. I don’t think God intentionally causes any of His children to suffer. When you think about it how could that be because Jesus died for our suffering. For whatever reason we sometimes choose to suffer, and sometimes we suffer despite our faith and despite prayer.
Also, right about this same time my older brother committed suicide due to depression and anxiety. There was no way I could raise my hand and say, “I need help.” Whatever this illness is it infects my family on both sides and now I have a son who suffers from intense anxiety and Asperger’s Syndrome.
These are illnesses as real as the Mumps, Influenza, heart disease and cancer. The human mind is a complex organ and while some prefer to think of these as spiritual illnesses or the result of satan’s lies I don’t agree with that. However, I do leave open the possibility that I may be wrong and so I pray daily, read the Bible when I can, and read inspirational stories.
So instead of blaming God I think now that while God does not cause us to suffer I think he may allow us to suffer because it produces ultimate virtue when we can bear up under it despite the pain.
My advice to you is to try and allow God to heal the relationship between you and your ex-husband. Confess everything to him and let him forgive you as you forgive him as well. You cannot change or undo what has happened any more than I can. However, I think by taking a humble and contrite attitude towards our lives. our mistakes and all that has happened we allow God to reshape us day-by-day. That is how change happens even in the face of overwhelming pain and even guilt.
I just commented on another thread about this subject and I feel moved to share with you something similar.
I am in the “almost” exact opposite situation as you but with a twist.
I was with my girlfriend and her 2 kids for 3 years. She had a good stable job but during that time I was struggling financially. She loved me deeply but due to me stressing over my finances I could not appreciate her as much as I truly wanted to because I was so desperate to earn a living, which in turn made her cold and bitter towards me.
I Sincerely tried to improve our relationship over time but like you, she said it was too much to late.
We split up and within 1 week she found a man that was more financially stable then me.
Your situation could have gone either way and the fact that you are suffering is the real lesson here.
I believe that God wanted me to be closer to him because I slipped away from him in the last year when things got bad and I turned to the world for answers.
It’s been 7 weeks since she has found the new guy and I feel like I am just getting back in touch with God finally.
I am deeply saddened by the price of my stupidity but I am also very happy that I am walking with the Lord again.
I know you want your husband back and I would love my girlfriend back but it is really up to his grace and mercy now and we need to keep turning to him to help us through this time of hurt and pain. He loves us and he is all we truly need.
I forgot to leave my email address if you want someone to talk with
sptrader@rogers.com
Thank you Sam.
DAILY, I am in need of prayer and direction from God. Am I not listening enough??? Does anyone ever feel that they can’t hear God? Or you seem to hear a word from the Lord but you question, “Lord, is this what you are saying or is it me hearing what I want to hear???”
Anyway, this “Testimony Share” is really a good Christian based support tool and I am thankful to God for finding it!
We sing a song in my church and the words of the main phrase says, “All the GLORY, the HONOR, the PRAISES all day they belong to God!” Amen!
my sister, what have happen has happen okey, u have confess ur sin and our good Lord is able to forgive u, keep on praying and i will pray for u, let God will be done in ur marriage. it is no too hard for God to restore your marriage back in a second,it may happen to draw you back to God. Now you know God, you did not loss anything my sister. To gain enternity is far better than worldly materials. His name alone will be glorify, wait upon God He will surely see u through. God thought is not our thought, his way is not our way. you have confess with all your heart, but try to confess to your ex-husband too, live everything for God. bother not. thanks
Yes I have feel the exact same way sometimes.
I pray but not sure what I should do.
I wish I had the answers but all I do is pray more and wait to see what happens.
I know the pain your feeling now all to well and I will add you to my prays.
Thank You Our Father,
I use to fill the same thing, that i want to Hear From Our Father More like when i first Gave my life To Our Father, i noticed then that any time my heart is free from sin, and i read The Holy Bible then i start hearing from Our Father, at times i Hear the Voice Of Our Father Speaking To my soul as i awoke from bed that same day, base on this Our Father Made me Know that when i Read The Bible Our Father Speak to me and when i Pray i talk to Our Father.
Lord you said if 2-3 come together then everything they touch will come true in your name. Well God there are more than 3 here. So I know you hear us. You know her, I don’t know. You created everything, you know all. We’re nothing compared to you. We’re sinners. And I can’t imagine your love for us to send your own son to die for our sins. Thank you. So God I don’t know what to make of this situation. But you’re so smart that someway your glory would be shown through this. We know you don’t like divorce but this time it happened. What do we do now? She completely surrenders to you. Take her hand and show her the way. Her will may not be done according to her plan but we ask that your will be done for your glory. If it be the return of her ex-husband or another man. You know her heart. And you said if we search you first then you will give more than our needs. Lord I have no answer, Im not that smart or have the ability to judge honestly but we call you in your name to take care of her.
Personally – Im going through a simliar situation. On the brink to leave my wife. I feel sorry for my wife. Sure I’ve done bad things. But to me it seems like she doesn’t love me. When shes mad, I don’t matter to her. And she tells me “just don’t get me mad”. Then I turn to a caveman and say “who do you think you are” “you don’t get me mad”. But like the story above, I turned slowly to God and I feel like hes showing me how I am to him because God is our boss our groom.
I will DEFINITELY pray for you. I feel your pain. wow. All i could do is cry, because i KNOW all about the longing, the suffering, and the pain. I am in a similar situation. I feel compelled to write my story as well.
Let me leave you with a verse that has truly help me to trust the lord, in my situation…
Proverbs 16:9 (New King James Version)
9 A man’s heart plans his way,
But the LORD directs his steps.
Basically, no matter what plans your HUSBAND have at this time, it all comes down to what the Father wants him to do. PERIOD.
God’s will, will be done, and WE ALL can bet on that.
I look forward to hearing your praise story sister! Be blessed
Oh Sister I pray that the ultimate will of God shall be done in your marriage and in your life. Stand in His infinite omniscience!
My parents are seeing more aliens for me. But any one not set for me. please pray for my marriage
I pray in jesus name that god will restore your marige something went rong with my brother to sorry about my spelling not that good but something happend to his marrage to he left his wife and family 4 almost a month now and havent came back he calls once in a wile to check in but still aint comeing back its a very long story what and how it happend all i ask of u and all of you who read this coment to please pray for him to return because i need him to he is a big part of this family i need all the help i can get through prayer 4 them his name is tony and wife nina thank you please dont just read this and not pray please pray for this thank you and god bless you all.
Eva i will pray for your marriage. Read the word of God from the beginning, Genesis through Revelation. And continue to spend time with Him. Know that He saw this time in Your life even before you were born, and now since you are trusting in Him, He will take care of it, because He has to stand by His word. Don’t panic, always know that God is in control and this time of trial is only being used to teach you who God is. I will pray for you.
Trusting in Jesus,
Arun.
My sister i will join you in prayer although i seem to be in a similar and i believe worse situation and need to share this, Brothers and sisters i need your fervent prayers. My husband left our family home after 5 years of marriage. i was two months pregnant with our third child when he left and our second was 7 months. He threw us out of the family home and got a divorce in July this year. It crushed me. The confusion in our marriage was a woman who was a family friend who by all standards is a devils advocate. In August a month ago i lost my second child.He did not even attend the burial. I felt like a widow. Nor come to see his two other children whom he had not seen in 2 years. I know Jesus and live for him. I have prayed and fasted long and hard over my situation but it only gets worse. I need my husband back and need to experience the joy i once had. Pray for me. Sometimes i feel as if God is not hearing my cry. I am grieving and scared about life. I wonder what God’s will in my life is.