For a long time, I had been praying for God to bless me with a woman that loved me as much as I loved her, to support and respect me, who was beautiful both inner and outer, but above all to genuinely love me. Well needless to say he blessed me with everything I had prayed for and brought her into my life. Now I was not a godly person when he brought her into my life. I was a sinful individual a backslider; however, through her I got saved and became closer to God.
We were together for a year and a half when one day she was broken and crying and told me that a family friend prophet had gone over to her house and prayed over her and suddenly told her that she was not in a godly relationship and that it was imperative for her to make a promise that night to break off the relationship. So needless to say, she did… This was in December; she did not go to work for a couple of days because she was so broken over what she had to do.
We did not speak for a couple of weeks, but then came back into each other’s lives for a while; however, she was broken between loving me and making the promise that she made to God that one day she told me that she had to do what she had to do. It has been several weeks that I have not spoken to her and it’s tearing me in two. I know that I don’t understand God’s will in my life, but why would he feel that I was not good enough for her? I don’t get it?
I have never been loved by a woman the way she loved me. She was the best thing that has ever happened to me, doesn’t he want the best for me? I’m just so confused… There are times when I want to be upset at God, but I realize that his ways are not our ways and that I can’t see the big picture like he can, therefore I don’t understand.
But this hurts so much. I pray for her well-being every day and I pray for God not to let her forget about me or not to let the love she has for me in her heart to fade away. I just don’t understand why I’m not good enough in God’s eyes for her. Can someone please help me understand this? Not only has this broken my heart and soul, but also has me questioning myself.
Hey there, I’m a new Christian, but I’ll do my best to help advise you to the best of my ability. From reading your post a couple things come to mind. Firstly, reflect on your relationship. Were you living it how you should be living it? Despite the success you felt the relationship had, were you and your ex-girlfriend putting yourselves and your desires over God? Your ex-girlfriend’s friend came to some conclusion as to why your relationship was ungodly so maybe think upon that and try and pinpoint the area where maybe you guys weren’t living how you should be. Christ needs too come first always. It is not that God doesn’t want you to be happy, far from it. Its hard to understand exactly what God calls each and all of us to do, but he is sovereign and he has a plan for all of us. Maybe take this time to reevaluate your own relationship with God. Maybe you’re not doing all you can to serve him best. And honestly maybe your ex-girlfriend doesn’t fit in God’s plan for you or her. Doesn’t mean you won’t find happiness. For all you know God has someone else equally special planned for you. Trust God. Pray to him about this. Reflect on your relationship with God too. I don’t know you so I can’t say for sure, but ask yourself if you have truly let Christ in your life and submitted yourself to Him. Best of luck my friend. I’ll pray for you. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6
Do not trust everything you hear, even from supposed Christians. Satan works to destroy relationships. He is the father of lies and deception. I would question this “family friend prophet” and the message that person received to give to your girlfriend. It could have been a false message. If she helped save you and bring you into relationship with God, and you have been heading in that direction, then that is good work that Satan would love to destroy. The enemy disguises himself in sheep’s clothing. Pray for the truth to come to light, and consider everything in light of what you read in the Bible. God loves you and does not demand instant perfection, but continually seek him.
Musanty and Mary, I agree with you both, false prophecy etc. what stroke me however is the question of sinful relation. It seems that they were living in fornication. And God requires fornication
Hope I can help you see the larger picture.
God uses trials to refine us into image of His sinless Son.They come in form of temptation, affliction or both. He knows us & normally won’t throw us into the rough seas if we can’t swim. Temptations are allowed within our endurance (1Cor10:13) & afflictions come only after repeated warnings. Big ‘sudden’ trails can come from Him only after repeated softer calls have fallen on deaf ears. Or it can come from Satan who wants to catch us unprepared & knock us out once & for all. But even then, Satan operates within the boundaries set by God. God is in control & all things work together for good to those who love Him (Rom 8:28).
God doesn’t grieve us willingly (Lam 3:33). He corrects us for our own good (Heb 12:10) for only those who do His commandments get eternal life (Rev22:14).
With this as background,examine yourself honestly if (& where) you’ve come short of His calling. The commandments are to (a) love God (b) love others as self. To love God is to keep His commandments (1Jn5:3). The 1st commandment prevails over the 2nd, leaving us with no room to break His commandments in the name of love.
Honest self-exam & prayers help us to identify our areas of weakness. Often temptation is the real issue; afflictions are there just to get us to yield to the temptation (we can’t overcome by avoidance). The real battle is to overcome ‘self’ or part of self that works contrary to God’s will. And it’s difficult because ‘self’ seeks what it wants, rejects what it doesn’t want, and defends itself.
Study/meditate on His words to build your resolve (you’ll be very clear & firm about which side of the battle lines to stand on). Fast & pray for understanding & power over flesh (self). Friends can make or break – mix with those who can motivate you to fight on & stay away from those who encourage you to give in (even if they have good intentions). Be strong … we’ll pray for you.
Thank you all so much for taking the time out to read my post and answering back to me. I will take all of your advice and try my best to put my trust in the lord and form a stronger foundation in my relationship with him. The thought of a false prophet has crossed my mind and I have prayed for God to bring all darkness into the light. I thank him for the blessings that I cannot see or understand. I have to remember that it’s in god time, not mine. It’s just so hard because I can’t keep my mind off of her. Please keep me in your prayers, I really need all the help I can get. Thank you and God bless all of you my brothers and sisters in christ.
1 corinthians 7:13-14 and 16. Please read them. U should go back to the girl and ask for prophesy from other prophets too. God never breaks relations but he joins if they are good for us. U know, Jesus Christ died on cross so that we can have a happy life. He took control of all evil via his blood which were freely tormenting people in past with people having no hope at all. He came as hope and yes we are his children. He gives us all we ask. It might be a trick of satan to make u believe that u are still not a believer. Satan comes to steal, kill and destroy. He did steal your relation, he did kill your lover and is destroying you slowly to think that God did it. COme out of it and know what is the truth. GOD LOVES US AND HE IS JUST WAITING FOR US TO PRAY.
Hey i was reading your story and what struck me too was that you really should question this prophet. If it is supposedly from God test it. The bible in 1 Thessalonians 5:21 it says Test everything. Hold on to the good.
I feel like you should talk to your ex and pray together about the situation if you still feel very strongly towards her. As what has been said above the Devil will use all sorts of methods to try and break us and he knows Gods laws inside out so if there is an opportunity that arises for him to break us down he takes it and throws everything he has at us but remember, He who is in you (meaning Jesus) is greater than he who is in the world (satan). Dont be afraid of the devil and the things he throws at us because the devil and his minions are afraid of us! Put him under your feet and stand on Gods promises! Pray to God for guidance on everything. After all God wants us to be happy and if the desire is in you to get married and have a family eventually God will not disappoint you because He already has the person you are meant to be with all specially picked out. It may be your ex but you also have to be prepared for the fact that it may be someone different. People come into our lives only for a season. I just want to make you away that Jesus your Saviour loves you dearly and He wants to help you and make you the best you can be.
Keep hoping and praying. God will NOT disappoint you and He is with you right now whether you feel him or not. Sometimes troubles come and its an opportunity for our faith to grow. But i must insist that you test what this prophet has said. I would get together with some mature christians and pray with them too and ask them to help you discern what is right.
Love and Blessings,
ps. you dont need to question yourself! If you know you are saved plant it deep within you and dont let it go. Dont doubt because doubt brings about sin. when the devil plants that lie within you about God not listening and God not caring or you’re not saved – believe me ive been there too! – crush him under your feet and quote John 3:16 aloud For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only begotten Son that WHOEVER BELIEVES IN HIM will not perish but RECEIVE ETERNAL LIFE!!!!! Xx
Hi, I am new to this website and I read your story and it really touched me because I know exactly what you are going through. I have been married to my husband for less than a year and dated on and off for about 6 years.
I briefly met my husband when i was 15 at a girlfriends birthday party, and was instantly drawn to him. I didnt see him again for about 4 years and when we met again, our connection was even stronger than ever. It again was a brief encounter and some time went on before I saw him again.
This time- the timing was perfect. We fell in love and the rest is history! Everything was going great until of course, the devil (if i could make his name smaller in size i would- thats how insignificant he is)tried to steal our happiness away. So many times, the devil tried to ruin our relationship. Don’t get me wrong, we may not have been life as pure as we could, but I have given myself to Christ.
The most challenging time came last year. My husband (boyfriend at the time) broke up on awful terms. I was so depressed, finding myself crying in the self help aisle of barnes and noble reading relationship books.
I came across help from a well educated man who told me that patience and compassion were the key to everything, and above all to have faith in God. that at times, we will endure tests, but God will never let us fall. I prayed to God for this man, and just came to terms that wheter he was with me or not with I would love him. I would not be angry towards him, but understanding and patient.
I just let him go and surrendered to God and his will. During my time alone, I worked on myself and prayed and tried to be a better person all around. So many things that I was plagued with just would fall to the wayside one by one. It was a little while, but he began contacting me again, and this time was right. God had matured me spiritually and he worked miracles on my partners end as well.
I am here now to say, that I am married to husband. We have a gorgeous and healthy baby girl! and I got here with complete faith in God. We endured many tests, but we overcame them in God’s time. My husband and I are not perfect- we both sinners, and I do my best to live in the way of the Jesus.
God is so great- please dont ever lose hope or let the devil take away your peace and happiness.
I can be a true testimony to this.
I now lay in bed with my daughter, husband and pet and we pray and give thanks to the good Lord night and day. A day does not pass where I am not brought to tears for the blessings God is showered on me.
I pray for you and hope that it all works out. I dont know you but I love you and feel your pain, and just remember that God is sooo good. He forgave me for some terrible things I have done, and is giving me the strength to reach out to people if I can. <3
It’s true, the Bible does say to try the spirit, BUT…only YOU know the truth to what that man stated regarding your relationship. And, you know that if you were out of His Will and fornicating, then it makes no sense to try and justify it or get upset with God. He doesn’t want you doing it, or any a relationship were that is a problem. You never mentioned marriage in your post, and not to assume, but only YOU know if your relationship was godly or NOT. Don’t deceive yourself. Thats all. May God bless you the right way…and with your heart’s desire. Peace.
First of all, God isn’t thinkin that you aren’t good enough to deserve that girl. He knows we are imperfect and He came down on earth to manifest His perfection in us. And this manifestation doesn’t come overnight, it takes time while you grow in patience, kindnes, love, etc… And you needn’t worry about this growth in Christ, as NEITHER YOUR EFFORTS CAN DRAW YOU ANY CLOSER TO GOD NOR ANY EFFORT CAN EVER SEPARATE YOU FROM GOD. So just relax and rest under the wings of Christ.
Secondly, every person that we come across in our lives is just a medium for God to draw us closer to Himself. Example: Since you cant depend on that girl any further to mend this relationship, your heart is directed to seek God, His help, His acceptance. And naturally your heart’s dependence shifts on Christ and your relationship with Christ grows eventually.
Thirdly, you needn’t worry if its the devil that worked disaster in your wonderful relationship. Devil can plan but cant succeed. If that girl is for you, God will bring her back anyhow, just put your trust upon Him pal.
You need to wait. He loves you the same as He loves that girl. You both are equal in His sight. God will soon make this clear to you. Hold on. God has covered your imperfection. So do not be worried about your imperfections and the imperfections in your relationship, But focus on God, He’s perfect.