Hi,
I’m a 28 year old mom of a one year old.
I have had psoriasis for a few years now and God helped me navigate through that phase.
After I got married my in law has always been asking my husband to make financial payments for their needs in huge amounts which had a strain on us. When I finally confronted this issue, they have always found ways to complain about me in one way or another. We had a tough time wen they came to stay with us after we had our baby. My father in law got drunk and started yelling at me for unnecessary reasons and my mom in law was always complaing about how unhappy she is staying with us.
This gave me lots of stress and worry and totally upset me. Obviously it had a strain on my marriage as well. I was angry all the time and yelling at my husband and blaming his parents for anything and everything. This got bad and I asked my mom to come stay with us to make me feel better.
She helped me overcome lots of my sadness and worry, stress from my in laws that made my psoriasis resurface. She did this through praying and talking.
But even now sometimes, I worry for my health and then worry what will my little son do if I were to fall ill.
This though is sumthing I’m fighting daily and asking God to help me overcome. I have scheduled a full body check up on the 7th just to make myself feel better.
Please pray for me. And pray the Lord helps me overcome this mental block.
Praying for you. Seems tough what you are going through and I hope you find your peace. Not so experienced in this area so i might not really suggest anything relevant but I ll say a prayer for you.
Take Care
Thank you for your kind words
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Count everyday as an opportunity to praise God. Take God at His Word and “ask” Him to help you during this season. He is faithful to His Word.
I pray for good health & healing over your life. I also pray that it gets better for you. Pray for Blessings over life. Stay Bless and Encourage.
While everyone is praying for you the best thing I can do is give you advice. Because I understand the situation. Unless your In Law is doing something for you like babysitting, you can tell your husband that he is not their provider. Unless he has a lot of money.
He is their enabler and that is preventing them from leaning on the Lord for their needs. It is selfish of them to ask for money from you if you do not have much. Tell him that it is like they are taking food and future college from their Grand baby. Obviously they made poor decisions and it is not up to your husband to be their provider. The Bible talks about this. For the man to go and cleave to his wife.
So he doesn’t feel guilty, have him give them resources to turn to. Tell him that it hurts your feelings when he listens to them saying negative things about you. He is allowing them to misbehave and verbally bash you. You can also tell them that it is not kind to speak of you behind your back. Your physical condition will improve when you remove this stressful situation. Let him know that these things are causing you to lose your health. That he now has a family. That he is not responsible for his parents. Put on a piece of paper how many hours you have fought over these issues. See if you can also write down how much money he has given his parents and show him with photos of vacation spots and babysitting services and amazing restaurants and new things he could buy with the money if he kept it for you and your child.
Show him a photo of a car he could make monthly payments to and drive instead of giving that money to his parents. Also change your diet and it will reduce your skin condition. Tell him that instead of feeling guilty about not giving money to the In law, he should instead feel guilty about taking from his sons future. Tell him how much joy and fun you could have with this money and the reduction in problems. Stand your ground. I would say it’s me and baby, or your parent. But if he is going to give them money, let it be for them helping you in return, like babysitting or cleaning. They must earn it.