I am still in the middle of the healing process. Nothing I can do but rely on God to heal my broken heart.
I met a guy 4 years ago. 3 months after our marriage, he cheated on me by sleeping with a woman who he met in the bar. I let him go, he didn’t want to. I attempted suicide. I remember the day when I was in the hospital, he came to visit me. He sat next to me and said he was sad. I asked him why. He said because I was in the hospital, he missed the birthday party if his girlfriend’s friend.
I was shocked and suddenly realized how stupid I was because I almost lost my life for such a heartless man. I thank God for giving me a second life and I have learnt to love myself more. I trust God will bring me my Mr. Right.
3 years later, I met a guy. We were together for 8 months. He even proposed in late October, and we decided to get married in 2011. Unfortunately, I found out he purchased a flight ticket to fly to other city to meet a girl when I was out of the country. He said he loves me and tried to rescue. However, I couldn’t trust him anymore and we broke up.
We broke up over a week already. We still contact each other. I am so devastated. I couldn’t sleep well, couldn’t eat. I am totally lost. I have no idea why God would let the tragedy repeat again. I try to pray, but I feel no energy to do it. I feel pity on myself and feel lost from the love from God.
I am still in the middle of nowhere. I know if I keep thinking like this, I will get depression. I just want to find the way out. I want to be healed.
sometimes in this life, God will face us with hardships and tragedies. but you have to remember that these are all tests. God wants us to stay strong and focussed on Him. you have to trust in Him completely. although bad things may happen, good can always come from it even if you can’t see the good right now. Make sure that God remains a CONSTANT thing in your life. because we may tend to forget Him a little bit when something exciting is going on in our own lives.
also be alert and aware of the deceptions of satan. know that God is ALWAYS with you. even if you don’t feel like praying, be strong and try to pray even harder. God will hear you! He’s always there even when it feels like He’s not. satan wants you to lose hope and give up. he will do anything to deceive you. but don’t let him win! God loves you and wants you to be happy. you just have to truly believe that and keep your focus on Him and let His will be done. stay strong! God Bless!
Hello, heartbreaks are painful. I myself know and have experienced deep anguish. But I want to say two things:
First: There is a view that much of the church is not familiar with and this is it: That God wants to restore you to your covenant partner even if there has been adultery, yes EVEN if there has been adultery. The facts are here (www.faithandmarriageministries.org). I am also a living example of this fulfillment. But there are conditions (letting go, trusting God, etc). See the website.
Listen to the heart of God in this: “What God has joined together, let no one separate.” God hates divorce/division. He doesn’t want it (Mt 19:8) even if he permits it.
Second: Again, many may disagree, but you must cease striving. Believe me when I say this, you do NOT need to look for Mr Perfect. Do nothing. God once said this to me, “Stop looking for what you want, or at what other people have. Look away and up at me. When you learn to be satisfied with Me alone, THEN I will surprise you with your love.” Again, I am a living example. I came to such a point that I believed God was calling me to be single for another decade. In any case, you cannot go wrong by doing #2. See what unfolds in doing so. Your life is in his hands and he will handle the issues of a life partner. He will… IF you have faith and give it up to him.
Eventually I started drifting away from God and our marriage wasn’t working much anymore and so she went off with another man… but LONG story short, she is now back.
I find that doing God’s will often seems like he asks us to do contrary to common sense.
I agree with both testimonies of God’s love. He is our father and He loves us.
Something to know:
We go through seasons in our life and it’s very good to get to know your personal seasons. Like the earth, everything God created has seasons. You may notice that you met both men around the same time in a given year (like the winter). And maybe even the break ups occured around the same time. the thing to realize here, is that any time we go through the same things over and over, there is something we aren’t learning from the process. From my own life, it has been exactly what David here, is saying not to do. When you look for something, more than likely it’s because you feel as though you are missing it. God wants to be our number one supplier. He wants us dependant on him and to open our spiritual eyes to see all that he is actively doing, so he can continue to bless us through our growth and during our stay here on earth. So, maybe the lesson here is that you put too much into these men, and even a little deeper (as I learned about myself), ignored key signs in these men, in attempts to get what you felt you wanted or needed. As always, the person God wants us to change is ourselves. The great thing is,(and I believe the praise point here), is that our God, is a God of second (third, fourth, fifth…) chances.
Praise Jesus! Hope this helps.
What I say is just give your life fully to God. He will take care of you.
Trust me within few days, you will be blessed with happiness. This short phase of sadness will vanish. Just come close to God.
Psalm 30:5 (New International Version,2011)
5 For his anger lasts only a moment,
but his favor lasts a lifetime;
weeping may stay for the night,
but rejoicing comes in the morning.
Psalm 147:3 (New International Version 2011)
3 He heals the brokenhearted
and binds up their wounds.
Meditate on those Scriptures and Know God is there for You and sometimes he has to shake up our foundation so that we can draw closer to him. God will heal You, trust in him. He loves you Very much, more than words can express