“Do not give what is holy to the dogs; nor cast your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you in pieces.” Matthew 7:6 NKJV
The LORD has been using the verse above in order to wake me up and set me free from a toxic relationship with my family.
For years I stayed with them in the hopes that they will become Christians just like the stories I heard.
It turns out wisdom has to be applied, and I need to understand that I am not the Holy Spirit, GOD is. GOD makes me see that I can’t change my family to accept LORD JESUS, it has to be their decision.
The LORD also makes me realize that for all those years that I stuck around in spite of the abuses I experienced, not only that it prevents GOD to work more in their lives, but I also enable their abuses, making them think that it is ok to treat me like dirt. I also became worse rather than be a better Christian.
So, with a leap of faith, I separated from my family. At first, I stayed at a Christian landlady, whose brother kept on belittling me almost daily. She herself at times would make such noises that at times it makes me think she’s done it on purpose.
This is the point where GOD taught me to only trust in HIM. Three weeks GOD put it in my heart to apply for a loan and in just a matter of days, it was approved.
I then looked for a better place to stay where the landlady is not a Christian but respects her tenants well. I also have clear privacy, which I didn’t experience with the Christian landlady.
I know my stay here is temporary for GOD stirs something in my heart again. However, it is in here where I finally learn to always communicate with GOD, with LORD JESUS so that I will be able to apply HIS word with wisdom, and having constant communication with GOD also makes us sensitive to HIS voice, to give HIM the glory HE deserves.
Leaving my family for good also makes me realize how I had abandoned my relationship with the LORD JESUS before because I was busy pleasing them. GOD also makes me realize that there are people who are not willing to accept HIM in spite of all the good HE does, and I need HIS wisdom so that I won’t be wasting time on the wrong plant.
This also reminds me of the verse “though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me (psalm 27:10).
Yes, from the moment my family decided to abuse me, it took years, they abandoned me already. But GOD is good, and HE didn’t allow that I would grow old in that kind of situation.
My advice, always communicate with GOD. There are times that other people in good faith give us advice, even church members. But only GOD fully understands our situation. And we won’t be sensitive to HIS voice, to HIS guidance if we don’t spend time with HIM daily.
GOD BLESS YOU, TO GOD BE THE GLORY
Kruz, it sounds like you learned some valuable lessons from your journey, thanks to God and His grace. Your story reminds me of Matthew 10:37:
Thanks, Kruz for your testimony. Though you didn’t give details of the abuse you suffered at the hands of your family members but I think I feel you.
Last year I had to cut off my whole siblings from my life because I came to realize that most of them had been against my wife, and I didn’t know even though she had been telling me. We went through a lot of challenges; my marriage was seriously threatened, and I had to make a choice. And I chose my wife over them and I’m happier today.
I felt better but of recent I made overtures to our eldest and she told me she wants those issues settled before the end of this year.
Siblings could be the greatest source of temptations so I kinda understand where you are coming from.
Some reading might not understand but something it’s better to be alone.
Most times whenever someone gets saved or wants to fulfill the calling and purpose of God, it is usually one’s family members or close friends that the devil always uses against one. We must keep serving God irrespective of the persecution from any source. Also, we need to continue to pray for them and fully allow God to do His work in their lives.
Kruz, keep serving the Lord faithfully. May the Lord always direct your steps. May you fulfill the purpose of God for your life in Jesus name.
Shalom