I pray that God uses this to help, heal, set someone free in Jesus’ name.
God just recently helped me get out of a marriage that was toxic and not a good situation for me or my son. I was married to an unsaved man for about 3 1/2 years. When we married, I wasn’t saved, and he wasn’t. But God saved me in the beginning of the marriage. We had a war in our house we were on two different pages. I sought God about the marriage and felt like God was telling me to just stand. So I prayed for strength I prayed that God would save him and fix me to love him.
When we first married, I didn’t love him at all I had lots of unforgiveness toward him because of what we had experience in bad times in the past. But I grew to love him when I drew closer to God. He caused me lots of pain, from cheating and mental abuse and emotional abuse. But in my mind, I was hoping and believing he would change. So, I asked God to give, me strength.
Well, he was doing illegal things and God had recently brought my son back to me. He started not talking to me for no reason at all it was hurtful because I was trying everything I knew. He started being very disrespectful, so I went to God. I was broken, hurt and miserable and just wanted him to love me but he was doing the opposite. He was rejecting me many times. I would want to hug him and love him he rejected me.
So, I went to God again. I told God I was so tired, and I was. God told me to let it go I didn’t understand it. I didn’t want to because in my mind I thought God would save him but when he left, I cried deep groans I hurt for two weeks couldn’t eat or drink but the whole time God was talking to me encouraging me and gave me peace.
I will never fully understand why God allowed me to stay and endure as long as he did. But honestly, I feel like even in a bad situation God was making me. I learned how to forgive, how to love, submit, lean on God. I asked God was it over forever. He let me know it was.
But you know God gave me strength and grace to come out of it. God knows what is best for us and he wants us to grow in Him. Sometimes what we think we need is the opposite. So now I know my worth as His child.
dearest sister in Christ, your testimony itself is the proof of the Lord so close to you. You did your best. In a toxic situation the Lord has given you the grace to remain in Him and to find the best to praise Him in the midst of ashes…now just see…He will turn those ashes into roses.
I agree in Prayer with you: Father God, I come with Jasha in the name of Jesus to praise you for the blessings in her life and the presence of your Holy Spirit that enables her to cling fast to your hand despite the world. Father, you are Jehovah Jeirah, El Shaddai, you who know what we require as our Father.
Father, today in Jesus’ name we ask for your guidance, more provision, more succour for Jasha to find her purpose in life according to YOUR will. We cover her and her household in the blood of the Lamb. Heal her wounds and give her the Joy of your Spirit. We submit her to your hands and in patience wait upon the Lord.
Hallelujah Lord, we praise you.
In Jesus name,
Amen.
Amen. Thanks for the prayer thanks for the encouragement as well :)
Hello,
I have lived a similar situation in my life. God had told me to stand in faith for the restoration of my marriage. I did and it wasn’t at all easy. But he promised me that IF I waited, HE would restore eventually. He did. I am not sure whether God did speak to you or not, maybe he did, and I don’t want to confuse you, but I greatly encourage you to check out this site which has been my greatest support during the break-up, as it has been for hundreds of others who are all seeing they’re marriages restored – God’s way. What he does for one, he’ll do for all. Check this site out: faithandmarriageministries.org
Also a side note: I believe it is good and right to get out of a marriage where there is abuse of any kind (1 Cor 7:10-11). This is to protect yourself, but it should never be to terminate the covenant that God established. In his sight, the two become one, and what He has ‘joined together, no one should separate.’ But during the separation, you’re aim is for reconciliation or to otherwise remain single (1 Cor 7:10-11).
Hi David so glad that God restored your marriage. Yes after seeking God for answering regarding the marriage I am 100% sure that God answered me and told me to let it go for good He also have me strength and courage to do it. You quoted scripture about what God had put together…well I have a question do you think that God put all marriages together or do we sometimes put things together and then want God to fix it according to our will I only want Gods will for me and its my desire to marry again I still young I just married the wrong man God has someone for me.
Hello Jasha,
You are well loved by the Lord.
Your question is a good question. Alot of people divorce today because they think they were just never meant to be together. They think they married the wrong person. But how could you ever know if you married the right person? If both get along? Even a couple who is joined together by God must work together to make it work. Both must live each other’s role as outlined in the Bible. When we don’t, we open the door for the devil to come in and destroy.
1 Corinthians 7:13 says “And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, must not divorce him” or Romans 7:2 “by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law that binds her to him.”
So whenever Jesus speaks against divorce, it is not under the assumption that the two were confirmed by God to be soulmates. Divorce is not wanted by God whether you are Christian or non-Christian.
Wherever two have been joined together through marriage, they are now bound together. It was never a question of whether they were meant to be. Otherwise, we’d have a church full of divorce…
What God did for me, he’ll do for anyone else. Praise the Lord!