Well I don’t know where to start but it was April when everything started to drift apart. We where a beautiful happy couple. We enjoyed each other we had a true blessing. But when God sees something that isn’t right he is going to change it. God opened my eyes definitely. We were dating for over two years and I loved him dearly. But April 2013 came and that’s when our perfect relationship started to crumble. We would argue and I would use bad language. And I wanted to stop but he just kept drifting away.
So after a month of failure we took a “break”. It was suppose to give us space so we can miss each other but resulted in the end of our relationship. During one day of our break I decided to text him because I bought a cross for him to hang in his car. I asked him questions like did he miss me and he said yes but his texts were short so I asked him was the break hurting or helping us. He replied to both that night. He ended our relationship. I felt the deepest pain and lost.
Here this man who I gave my heart to rip it apart. I felt like how could God send me such a blessing and take it but that’s the thing he didn’t. The reason this happen was because God wanted me to prove my faith and trust in him. I never realized how much I need God and I see that he wanted me to be aware. God separated us so that we could find and focus on God individually and praise him in the most high. I never felt that we put our own selfish needs before God but God will allow you to see your wrongs so you can fix them before its too late.
So after the breakup I felt so empty and was in need of answers. I felt like giving up on everything. But I knew that I am a child of God and with him anything is possible so I researched, prayed for deliverance and forgiveness, fasted and became closer with my Lord. I prayed that God would show him the right path, soften his heart, and to allow him to remember that what we had is a true blessing.
When July rolled around his family invited me over for the fourth. We talked and it was peaceful. I knew that God was getting ready to send me my miracle. A couple days later we got lunch and I felt like it was baby steps closer to what I was praying for. Toward the end of July a couple days ago, he called me up and told me he doesn’t want to let me go and wanted to be with me and realized our blessing.
God is GOOD. I rejoiced!!! The key here is that I grew closer to God put him first and did not worry !!! I trusted Gods judgment and believed in his will and he brought us back together. We promised each other to remain abstinent until marriage. God will continue to bless us as we praise him in the most high. Never give up on God; he never gives up on you.
God is Good..true..God is great. Whitney, In every relationship there be problems that would appear always. As long as we focus on Jesus and He becomes the centre of your life, nothing will break you. God bless you. Always remember Jesus is your Super Hero. I thank you for sharing and i pray your testimony will motivate many.to trust God.
Amen ! God is amazing !
Thank you for your testimony Whitney, I’m going through a tough time with my long distance boy friend of 1year I’ve decided to give him space since I also need it to find myself in Christ. Thank you
The similiar situation I am walking through in my life. I hope and believe, God will change my life too like yours.you waited for 3 months for him to return. But I am waiting for more than a year. Thanks for sharing this testimony.
i am going through the same thing
Praise the Most High God for His doing. Everything happens for good of those called to His purpose. I am going through such but am laying down every weight, every guilt, every strength and weakness so He may fix and do His Works in us. I love you God, i trust in you; you are calling us to conform to your will. Hallellujah
Thank God for this testimony
My super friend of 6 yrs, all of a sudden told me that he loves me but we can’t marry. He didn’t say why and God told me that we’ll both have successful marriage. It hurts, it’s been 8 months now but i believe that God will honor his words. I’ll keep believing.
I feel as though I am in the same boat. I caused the space my Boyfriend needed. I was not true to god in my relationship. Frankly I questioned my faith and gave up. My boyfriend screamed god is real. I have god back in my life. It took the “break” We both needed. It’s been 3 days so far. We agreed to 2 weeks. I feel as though I am fine to be back at home with him but until my boyfriend feels the same. I am here waiting. I will not give up. God showed me what I can and cannot do before marriage. I will stay true. I will work hard in my faith and keep up with my responsibilities. This hurts. I pray the space my boyfriend wants isn’t burdening our relationship. I just want to go home. I want to be able to hug him. I don’t know how to give him space. After living with someone for 2 years. May not seem like much but it was for me as I’m sure It was for him. As much as I don’t want to stay away… I have to… It’s in GOD’s hands. Anything I need to do. I will do.
I loved reading your testimony because it sounds exactly like what I am going through right now. I see the changes that God is making in my life right now and how happier I have become since the love of my life left. At the time, I was so dissapointed in God but I realize that he didn’t want to just fix my love life but he wanted to fix my life! I have been so unhappy and feeling so empty for so long and he’s been overflowing me with love from friends and family that have drifted apart over the years. I am patiently waiting on God for deliverance and a miracle in a hopeless situation with me and my ex. It is in God’s hand and it is out of my control, but I have faith and belief that God is a God that can do impossible things!
Gosh, these stories are so much like my story. My BF of 2 years, has been traveling back and forth faithfully to see me every other week with only missing approximately 3 times in this time frame (6 hours). He’s the best man I ever had and I don’t think I realized it until now. He’s decided we need to take a break meanwhile he wants to remodel his parents home whom are deceased and live in our small home town. I was struggling with us not being married and knew GOD was not pleased with us. About a year ago he looked at a ring and I didn’t want because it wasn’t big enough given this would be my second marriage. So I wanted to show the world I got it right this time. Which now, I look back and that was so ignorant of me and I wished I had an opportunity to say yes. I know I have not been praying and seeking GOD whom I believe gave him to me. I pray that GOD sees fit for us to be together and married one day. I pray that I can look to GOD in this time because it has been very difficult these few days. He was extremely a great example to my 13 year son and my 23 year old daughter. I feel so empty and lost but I have to look to GOD. Please keep us in your prayers
This initial story is amazing…it is basically the exact thing I am going through right now….
I know by the grace and glory of God he has his plan for me/us…
I have been growing closer to him in this time of “loss”, but it truly is not a time of loss because I am gaining closeness with God, which I believe and have faith is his absolute intention…
Thank you so much for sharing these stories…
God bless each one of you
Thank you so much for sharing your testimony. My boyfriend of 4.5 years broke up with me a little over a month ago. Everything has felt like it was falling apart. I have chosen to spend this time becoming closer to God. People look at me like I’m crazy when I say with confidence that my ex and I will be back together but I know through God, all things are possible. Your testimony gives me just one more reason to not give up hope.
Thank you so much for sharing your
testimony. My girlfriend of 7.5 years broke up with me a little over a two months ago.
Everything has felt like it was falling apart. I have chosen to spend this time becoming closer to God. People took me aside from the lord. i stopped praying and started all bad habits again, later on everything is gone from me. nothing left for me now. my friends started ignoring me, no job nothing. now just before half n hour I searched for the testimony site weather it would work out or not but wow… what a testimony… praise the lord from now and then I start to seek god.. let it happen whatever god is willing for me.. god I’m all yours now.. this testimony turned me towards you. bless her family Jesus. thank you all.
I can’t lie and say that I am not in a place where I am not hurting. I am having issues with my boyfriend and I am questioning my faith. I have been praying to God hoping he will answer my prayers but nothing is happening. I believe that my relationship with my boyfriend can be fixed but my boyfriend needs to soften his heart and open his mind up to things and what is in front of him. We have had our ups and downs but we always get through it but we have been arguing like crazy lately and I just want things to get back to the way that we’re and for us to be good and build on our relationship. I need God to help with this because I know in my heart that it’s going to take God to fix this and nothing more than God and my willingness to make it work
I had met on of the best guy I think God could ever create. we dated for 3 years not the best but hes perfect. we did and went every where together. he asked me to marry him but it wasnt possible cause of financial strain.
But I really planned on marrying him because I do love him and he compliments me alot … would do gardening together. market, go farm, mission trips .. dinner so much. We argued like crazy at times for three years its like almost everyday we would see each other. our last home activity was we paint my room together.
We had a family vacation and a day after he just turned completely against me saying he hates me wish he didn’t met me and alot more stuff and we didn’t even have a fight. I am completely broken its been almost 2 months now.
I really need your prayers for us both cause I know what happened but I knew he loved me though he hates me now everyday I love him more.
But I took this time to draw closer to God in his word and praying cause am not looking for a another man.
Whatever happened with you two?
Great testimony, really going threw the similar thing with my Girlfriend and know that God has better plans …
Wow. I am greatly moved by the testimonies I read on this website. I am going through the same with the father of the baby I am carrying this moment. It hurts. But I quickly ran to God for safety, strength and comfort. I know He will fix my relationship for me. I am not even going to fight it, GOD WILL do all that for me. I know I have been slacking in my faith and doubting Him about my happiness but this time, I am prepared to let God take control of my love life and build me as a person. I pray for my boyfriend to find Jesus, wisdom and freedom from the trap of this world. I know God will lead him to the right path, and We will be back together and forever this time. I want to see us kneeling down and praising God together. I know right now he hasn’t changed, it will not be easy, cause he will struggle a lot to find his way but I’ll pray for him always to be protected and to have that strength. I love him and only him. Lu, you and I will be married one day.
Did God fix your relationship?
Great testimony. I’m going through the same situation. Me and my ex were together for about a year but he felt that god was not leading the relationship. We both had our problems. We both lost of virginity to each other. In the beginning I did not like him. I didn’t like him at all but then I didn’t start to like him because something was different with about him. And he truly was the best boyfriend I ever had and I don’t believe I will ever find anyone like him.
But anyway back to our problems…he had a problem with sex, like he was literally addicted I guess because he finally lost his virginity. And my problem was that I didn’t have a good solid foundation with god. And we both were insecure.
We broke up in April to give is some time to think, but we try not to talk to each other but like 2 days later we would end up talking to each other. Now he finally put his foot down and told me that god told him that we won’t be together. And right now I just don’t know how to adjust to that because we both love each other dearly and we both want to marry each other. But god tells me that we will get back together. So is that possible for god to tell a couple two different things? SOMEONE PLEASE RESPOND TO ME !!!
I can almost hear the urgency in your message on here. You are seeking an instant answer and a sense of peace for your mind / heart. In reality, no matter how much we want to have an answer on our watch it really isn’t up to us, it’s on God’s timeline for answers.
The sermons at church over the past few weeks from my pastor have been about the life of Joseph in the book of Genesis (beginning around Genesis 37). If you are not familiar I recommend going back to this book of the Bible and reading. Joseph was blessed in his family as being the top son and was given favor from his father Jacob for many years, then he went through much of his life at all time lows – he was thrown in a well by his brothers, sold in to slavery, accused of crimes he didn’t commit, thrown in to prison and spent several years there. This entire time it would have been hard for Joseph, let alone anyone, to see God in a favorable light and having bigger and better plans. Things ultimately did get better for Joseph and will get better for you. It just won’t be on your time table or when you would like to have answers.
God will use anything and everything in your life to focus your mind and trust back on Him. Sometimes these are things we may hate and other times we may be awe struck at how blessed we feel. God is good, always, especially in seasons when we feel that the world is against us.
I encourage you to keep your focus on God during these tough times. When things go poorly, thank God for the opportunity for him to work THROUGH you rather than seeing it as God working AGAINST you.
Pray to God often to soften your heart, help your thoughts stay positive, and give you the strength each day. If our lives were always stress free and perfect why would anyone ever need to focus or trust the Lord? It is in our darkest days that we often can resent God for hurting us when sometimes it is these circumstances that God uses in order to bring us closer to Him and remind us that He is in control and will bring us through.
Stay positive and I would love to hear if things have gotten better over the past several months since the initial post.
Hi I am exact situation. Any updates
This is all inspiring, I have hope that things can change for me. I was dating my ex almost two it would be this week we are both Christian , as of few months ago he said he has gotten vision or dream were we can no longer be together he took that as a message for him. we were happier than ever with god in our life. Its been weeks we love each other very much we used to spend time together no I just see him at church he is hurt as am I. He says he cannot have hope that things will work out. He says that is being disobedient to god. I am positive it will work out maybe we both needed to focus more on god that was my problem before. I’ve asked god at the right time to bring us back together hes upset and doesn’t want to have any feeling at the moment I have accepted it but I have faith and hope how can I make him see this.
I was brought up in a Christian family buy I haven’t really known God. The love of my life recently got saved and the first thing he did was push me away. He says he loves me but he needs to find God first. He says he wants to avoid temptations because we did not abstain. As much as I don’t know God, I felt that he was right for me and he had said that in order for us to be together, I need to get saved. Now my dilemma is this; how do I find God without my selfish desires getting in the way. Because of course my first guess was that I should get saved so that we can be together but I know that is selfish and wrong. I feel like I love him more than I love God. And I don’t know what to do. I feel so hurt and mad that he would leave me because I haven’t found Jesus. Jesus mixed with sinners, he never pushed them away. But the Christians of today set themselves apart from sinners forgetting that we all belong to God and that they were sinners too. Sometimes I feel like non believers may have a better understanding of the Bible than most Christians. I am a bitter person and I don’t know what to do.
Any update? I hope that this situation did not push you away from God. May times it takes one person in the relationship to be saved and that person will lead the other one. The beauty of what I have read in your meaaage is that although you would have searched for God for selfish reasons, you would have found him and then his Holy Spirit would guide you in the right path. Hey, there have been people who use God for the wrong reasons and then to their surprise they get saved. No matter what you are being drawn to God by, you can never go wrong.
I am 3 months pregnant now for my ex. We just recently broke up. I was so hurt by his womanizing ways and now he treats me like I meant nothing to him. I feel so alone and weak but I realized and from the advice of a friend that this is the time I need God the most In my life. I need his to give me the strength to carry on and I pray everyday that God fixes our broken relationship if it his will. I pray that he finds his way to God and is able to break free from the worldly ways just like I am trying to do with my life. I know soon God will hear my prayers because he always does and I have faith that he will hear my cry. I am happy this is happening to me including the pregnancy my parents didn’t want but now I see it as a way out for me and finally to accept God fully into my life as my Lord and savior. I wish you all the best as well. Amen!
Keep on praying, GOD will soften your boyfriend’s heart. Declare it in the name of JESUS. GOD BLESS YOU and to your angel 🙂 GOD is working on it!
This is an amazing testimony. Trusting God and leaning not on my own understanding is what has helped along the way. I am going through something very similar. We dated for 1 year and things were going smoothly. Planning a wedding and etc and then right after celebrating our anniversary he requested a break and said things were moving too fast for him. (The dreaded fear kicked in)
We decided to go to counseling to get spiritual guidance from the church and thats when I knew that A break was needed. I didnt want it because I felt that things could work out wirh us being together but God had other plans. I cried, I lost weight, I stood confused. But in my heart I was told to be patient.
A vision came to me and said that just because you learn quickly in class doesnt mean others learn as quickly as you. That was God telling me to stay grounded and to trust him because he is in a learning session. During our relationship we prayed, we worshipped, we prayed for strangers, we constantly blessed others. however after reading your testimony I can see where praying started to lack or not keeping God in the front. We have been going through issues for a month now (nothing major but not enough to break up) but he said he needed a break exactly a week ago today.
There are times when I want to give up and there are times when I know that God will bring us back together stronger than before. I pray day in and day out. Im constantly talking to God not just about my ex but just praying now for anything. My relationship with God has grown more than ever and I now understand that this break was needed for me too, so that I can get a clear view of the plan that God has for me that somehow got lost during the time my mind was clouded. It hurts. The pain can be almost unbearable but when you know in your heart that God is working on him to not just be a better man for the kingdom of God but to be a better man for you. It almost put comfort back in your heart.
The only thing we must learn is to trust God’s timing. God is not the author of confusion. He will not lead you anywhere you shouldn’t be. However, if you feel in your heart that it is officially done and over, then it probrably is. You must trust God also. NOTHING JUST HAPPENS. We must understand that. There are many lessons to learn in life and as heartful as it is, this relationship could have just been a lesson to prepare you for your future husband. Someone who won’t just leave you in the midst of bad timing. In the mean time of waiting. Start praying for him daily. Pray that in this time of seperation that he is being lead and guided by God. Pray for healing for his heart, pray that during this time that he is not listening to the voice of a stranger but that he is listening to only God. Pray that he is not being misguided by the people of the world but that he is being Guided the correct way. Pray for his safety.
We must also remember that we can’t want something so bad that it becomes in 1st place in our lives. That place is and should only be filled with God, then your kids and boyfriend and etc. Its natural to lose sight or stumble during our walk with God but being that we are his children, he also corrects us when we step out of line. Except the correction, empty yourself completely of things that is not from God and trust him that when he brings you and your mate back together that it will be stronger than ever because he will then be ready for the next chapter. Remember God already knows the chapters in our life. And if your ex is from God then he cant start or write his next chapter without you because your destiny is linked to his. Trust God and lean not on your own understanding. I’ve encouraged myself even more after writing this. Stay encouraged ladies.
Any update? How are things with you now?
Hello, Blessed day everyone! 🙂 I am so blessed that I have found this site today. I am really struggling from depression, I have my ups and downs Here is my story.
My boyfriend broke up with me after 3.5 years of our relationship. I begged , pleaded but it won’t work. He said he needs time, he wants to be single, and his love for me faded. He act so badly and very mean to me because I annoy him too much he said he no longer loves me ad stop hoping we can get back together. I am really inlove with this man. We are both christian and I must admit even though we believe in God, we made a LOT of sins and mistakes and I think that’s what made GOD upset to us but I truly believe that God can change everything. Even my ex boyfriend acting so cold and very bad and mean to me and pushing me away, I believe in my heart that he still loves me but not so inlove with me anymore. He was so stressed at his work and because of his family and financial issues. It seems like he cannot think right. I know this guy, he can say whatever he wants to whenever he was pissed and I understand why he is being mean to me because I am not giving him space. I contribute a lot of his stress. I really understand where his attitude and emotions coming from as I have said he was so stressed at work, and whenever he got home from work suppose to rest still he can’t their house if full of mess, so many people , noisy people, no food something like that and even though his family love him it’s not that really shows. He can’t handle so much stress anymore. I believe that he still loves me even though he says he does not. Real feelings do not fade that easily. He is not talking to me anymore. He blocked me on hs phone and unfriended me on social media so that I won’t bother him anymore. He hates seeing and knowing that I am crying and sad but he can’t prioritize love life anymore.He hates himself for hurting me. I can’t be mad at him despite of all the bad things he has done and hurtful words because I truly believe that the old him, “the god fearing, kind understanding him” will come back. They said, if you love someone set him free, yes I already did but that does not mean you will give up praying for that person. I am still fighting and praying for him because I have this faith that his faith in God will come back, that GOD is doing something in ourselves to make us a better individual so that we can start fresh. I am seeing a lot of signs that GOD is giving me. Devils are always whispering to me telling me to give up and praying for this guy and get mad at him and stop believing in GOD.I wont bother him now, I will give the space he wants but I will still fight for my faith. In God’s perfect time in Jesus mighty name, he will allow us again to meet and start over. My ex boyfriend needs to soften his heart, forgive himself for the things he has done for me and have a peace of mind. I will wait for him to come back and pray for him always. Please pray for us also. GOD BLESS, STAY STRONG, KEEP FAITH EVERYONE! 🙂
Dear Lainey. My boyfriend/fiancee of 3.5 years ended our relationship a couple months ago, via a text message. It was very hurtful. We are both Christians. Though we did not argue or fight, we did not walk with Christ, not putting Christ first, crossing boundaries & not being respectful of each other at times. I allowed myself to walk away from God the past 2.5 years, allowing dissapointments in life to get the best of me & allowing Satan to attack me, daily. I started becoming withdrawn, depressed, losing my smiles, laughter and joy,..all because I was excluding Christ from my life. My boyfriend saw huge change in me. I was taking him for granted, being direspectful and I was TOXIC..as he said.
It has been a horrible past 4 months to say the least. Not sleeping, crying, calling prayer lines throughout my day, not eating, loosing 50#, depressed, all because I wasn’t living for Christ. Through all my pain, i still was not letting go & letting God to his mighty work in both of us. So hard to Let Go. You think its the only thing keeping your relationship connected. But I know now, finally..that only God can bring us together. I cant do anything. I realize this now. I tried. Wrote letters. It failed.
I have to believe that God seperated us for a reason. I know God is doing work in me, showing me how far I was from him, the mistakes i made & disrespect i showed at times. I believe God brought us together, and I beleive God needed to do major work in my heart & draw me back to him,…before I could be a wife & partner. I’m finally trusting God, building my faith, working on myself and my prayerlife. God wants the best for me & the best in me. Keep praying, talking to God, Praising him, living for Christ, reading his word, believing, working on yourself, spiritually, mentally & physically, and thanking God daily…as soon as you awake. We are not alone. God is with us. The Holy Spirit is with us. I know, until my heart and mind are right with God,……God is going to wait.
Greeting to you my lovely sisters. I can’t thank God enough for using me and my experience with you both. A month ago when I was desperately asking God to send my guy a confirmation regarding me being the one for him I felt something strange. While I was in church beginning my fasting to get an affirmation for him through it, I sensed a voice kinda stir in my heart telling me that you gotta surrender and let go of this relationship. I was scared, I ignored and kept praying to God that today as I begin fasting, you have to send my guy a positive confirmation about us. The word of God convicted me to come before God and give all that I have at altar. Everything that I have to be surrendered, and holy spirit made me confess that Lord, I can’t leave this guy as I love him, but if you want to separate us you do it. I lay m desire down! As I got out of church.. I called texted him and he seemed distant. I knew what had happened, and he told me God asked him to stop this relationship as it wasn’t right! I was heart broken! shattered… I couldn’t breathe and collapsed , my whole world came down! That was the most dreaded moment of my life.. Here I was seeing my life with this guy.. who told me he won’t ever leave my hand if God tells me that you are the one for me and what I was asking the Lord he did exactly opposite! I was choking and I didn’t know what to do.. I continued with my fasting and all these days hardly spoke to the guy… after 21 days of fasting, God changed my prayers and revealed to me what had gone wrong! God is a jealous God. I kept my guy and my feelings for him above God, I took pride in my prayers and tried to be answer to my own prayer. From Rebellion he brought me to surrendering to HIM. I know how hard it is for us to LET GO & LET GOD! I came to this site a month ago to get encouraged.. to see for testimonies where God has restored the relationship back! Those 21 days of fasting were easy as Lord gave me strength.. but post that.. the flesh tried to take control again.. I was fighting a battle again with flesh/mind/spirit. There were repetitive thoughts telling me “God won’t do it for you!” there were voices that would say that I am GOD and telling you that this is not my will and you can never change it.. you are wasting your time in praying you won’t get anything out of it! I always thought that while in prayer I have peace but what happens once these thoughts attack? Through prayer God taught me the below things:
1. He is more then willing and capable to do what we ask him to.. For with God nothing is impossible! He delights in obedience and not in sacrifice!
2. Nothing is wasted in Kingdom of God! Not even your prayers!!! God says every tear that you shed I collect in my palms… and tears are your silent prayers.. Praise God! he loves us so much that he collects our tears in HIS palms.
3. Voice of God is still… he won’t torment you with this voice/thoughts.
4. We first need to crucify our desire in flesh! we need to sanctify ourselves and are desires and come before Lord : His word says : Do not be anxious but with Prayer & in supplication and with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God and the peace of God that surpasses all understanding shall guard your heart & mind.
5. Before you pray for restoration of your relationship.. Seek him and restore your relationship with him.. Worship him and praise him and put your trust in HIM.
6. We have HIS DNA in us.. we are HIS daughters and he would never give our hand to someone who is not capable to take care of us.. because we are precious to him 🙂 Keep your guy in prayers and seek your man through the eyes and in love of Christ.
7. Finally! We are victors in Christ… Take a leap of faith.. walk in faith.. jump and shout praises even before the blessing is released. Before you see it claim it! Because the blessings are released in Spiritual realm first and then it manifests in Physical… Devil can never stop GOD to work… He is restricted but our GOD is NOT!
My situation hasn’t changed at all… but I have proclaimed that my Daddy with bring the man whom I love when I am perfected in CHRIST & when he is perfected in CHRIST… when we both have HIM as center of our lives.. IN HIS TIME HE MAKES ALL THINGS BEAUTIFUL! IN HIS TIME he will bring me and my ex together not as boyfrn & grilfrn… but as MAN & WIFE!! AMEN! HALLELUJAH!!!! God is rewards our faith he isn’t partial.. In this you rejoice, though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been grieved by various trials, so that the tested genuineness of your faith—more precious than gold that perishes though it is tested by fire—may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ. (1 Peter 1:6-7)
Blessings to both of you! will keep you in prayer!
Blessed day! How are you and how is it going? ?? I thanked God for using you to encourage each other’s faith! It’s been 3 months now since my Ex and I broke up and it’s been really a tough fight! Nothing has changed at all no progress, No contact coming from my Ex etc and I feel hopeless sometimes. But God is giving me a lot of signs that i dont have to worry and I have to keep my faith still and wait for his miracle! Human mostly says “Show me and I will trust you” But God says “Trust me and I will show you”
Being dumped by my ex boyfriend really hurts me up until now because I am missing him so bad. I want to contact him but it does not feel right to contact him anymore because he always says that he wants freedom from me etc. I dont want to bother him and I am afraid that it is not the right time yet. I am still hoping and praying that God will lead my ex boyfriend back at the right time.
I realized all my faults, I realized every bad things I have done to my ex and its not inly his fault , Its mine too! Thank GOD for making me realize everyday what went wrong. I am being attacked by devils too that my prayers wont ever happen and I am just wasting my time. Specially i am seeing my ex on social media being so happy without me and seems like hes starting to like one girl and it really hurts so bad I felt hopeless :’( I really do but ThankGOD for making me strong everyday and helping me to endure everything while I am waiting. I will praise the name of Jesus everyday and theres no evil can harm me anymore! Im gonna rebuke in the name of Jesus all those negative thoughts that keep popping up on my mind!!! I am declaring that in the name of Jesus im gonna go back on this site and gonna tell you all that GOD CAN and GOD WILL restore the broken relationship! ?? Trust GOD and trust his perfect timing and LOVE GOD first above all ? GODBLESS everyone!
I am going through something similar and have been trying to forget about my Ex, pour everything into chasing God. I keep having dreams about him being on my front step crying and even pictured him sitting in church (he was saved before but was drawn away from the church and his family was as well.) I really do believe God is working on his heart and these testimonies give me faith that though a situation may look impossible, God can make beauty out of ashes and can restore relationships when there seems to be no hope. The devil is a liar and there is power in persistent prayer (Micah 7:7)
I’m so happy I found this site. I have friends who give me advise but reading this, I realise that there are people (women) out there in the world going through what I am going through.
My boyfriend of 4 years, ended our relationship the night before our 5 years anniversary. I was so devestated, confused and emotionally broken.
Things have been going great, there were little bumps along the way. He had his reasons for ending things, he felt so guilty for not being supportive of me that it was eating at him away. He had alot on his mind with that guilty feeling. He ended our relationship, saying it was for the better of our lives.
How can I accept that when we have being together for so long and to throw it all away. I have cried myself to sleep for a month now, I asked God why, why give me someone so special and loving only to take him back. I have cried questioning why.
But I have read all your testimonies and I realised, I need to give him space to focus on him and I need to focus on myself, and instead of asking God why, I should be thanking God for making my boyfriend realize the problem so he can work on it and continue to pray for him to find peace and help him through prayer.
I will continue to work on my relationship with God. And pray for my relationship with my boyfriend to be restored throught Christ our Lord.
Thank you all for your testimonies, I am encouraged by them.
I dont know if people still communicate through reply in here. I have the same situation for a while. I was in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. He came to my country to visit me and my family and we decided to get married so i can live together with him, but at the end of august where he had to go back to his country i found that he has been cheating on me for over a year. I confronted it to him then he chose her, he broke up with me and he didnt want to marry me. He walked through the airport as our 3 years happy memories means nothing to him. As soon as he back at his country he continue his relationship with the girl he cheated on me with. It’s been around one month he didnt text or talk to me, but reply if i texted him. And in this one month i surrender myself to God. I cried to Him and pray to Him everyday, pray in several novenas. I might do several complaining to God, and keep asking Him why He let people did s*** things to me like this, why he let this break up happened which is so unfair to me, why He allowed him to cheated on me. My faith is really weak, when i pray to God i have faith but then i lose it again, i feel like there’s something wrong with me and my prayer, so it feels like God doesnt even answer or even want to talk to me. And because i see that my ex boyfriend is happy with his girlfriend it also break me down all over again. But i still pray and pray and pray i try to surrender and focus on what God wants for me, but i can’t help myself i keep pray asking God to give my ex-boyfriend back because he was like bestfriend and life-support for me. I deal with this tough break up alone without my parents and my friends. Can’t date anyone because i dont have friends and activity that i can do. I’m really in miserable state. I only have God that i can turn to but i also need strength to get through at least the day. I’m looking for professional help but they dont want to take care of break up case instead of laughing at me. If there someone can give me advice or helping me to back in track with God without thinking about my ex-boyfriend because i still think about him everyday everytime. I always said in my pray “not my will but Your will” but i can’t seem to believe that God will bring him back to me. I feel like there’s no point to pray for my ex-boyfriend anymore but i still do everyday. But it’s still killing me, the sadness, worry and doubts never goes away. So someone please help me
I would like you to begin with knowing that God has promised us:
This promise holds true not just for Joshua but for us too.. he is with us wherever we go in our lives, physically, emotionally or spiritually. I can totally understand your situation and I am in love with a guy and so was he. We were together and wanted to be married but as soon as I moved to US God revealed to him and to me that he doesn’t want us to be together. whether this is temporary or permanent I have no answer. My guy thinks and believes that we are not meant to be together at all and became so cold towards me. I broke all ties with him, stopped communicating with him.. it’s been 3 months since this happened and there hasn’t been a single day that I don’t cry myself to sleep. But during this time I came closer to God but reading his word.
God revealed to me that i had completely forgotten about him and it was all about me and this guy.. he needed to work on me and my guy and if we would have been together that wouldn’t have been possible. There are days I am so broken and hurt and discouraged and tired that I feel like running away from all this. But the only key is surrendering to God. He didn’t set you apart for you to fall back in another relationship. The only relationship you need to work on right now is your relationship with God. Pray for your ex. Keep him in your prayers that he listens to God’s voice. Ask the Holy Spirit to lead you in prayer. nothing ever happens overnight but prayer can change the situation and also the way you look at your situation. God always wants us to bring our needs to him. Philippians 4:5 says:
Whatever it is; pain, anger, frustration talk to God about it. He is our friend and a friend who would never mock us but would listen to us. he is omnipresent. He is El-Roi the one who see me. I will keep you in prayers sister. you can contact me anytime you want on my email ID. And just so you know. till now my prayers haven’t been answered. I am still waiting! God bless you!
The twist story is my ex-boyfriend doesn’t believe in God and so does the girl he cheated on me with. But like I found out that he’s happy with her, make me asking why God let me suffer with the pain of this breakup while He let them who doesnt even believe in Him be really happy above my suffering. I still pray and thanks for the bible verse josh 1:9, it kinda give me strength. And thanks for replied my comment, I really need support from someone although I try to talk about everything to God, because I was kinda out of Him for several months due some problem. But thank you it was really nice knowing someone still care.
Hello I’m going through a very similar problem in my relationship I started a fast today .. I’m not strong enough to do hard fast I just choose a couple things like coffee soda sweets things like that to fast from I’m asking god to reveal his will in my relationship my broken relationship to be restored and stronger than before and that my boyfriend will believe in the lord and fast with me because of right now he won’t and gets mad if i bring anything biblical up I’m starting my fast today and hoping to have found my answers and confirmation after over a year of pain suffering and not being able to eat because of how sad and depresssed I am about my situation on the 26 of October I hope to have a better understand and peace please fast with me I’m keeping you in my prayers as well
Your story describes the journey I’ve been going through, thank you for sharing those verses too! I’m trying to hang on to God, and He’s the only reason why I haven’t given up on my relationship. I’m working on my relationship with Christ and know that He has to be the centre of my relationship with my ex in order for it to work and know that I can’t make the same mistakes I made last time.
Waiting is really hard though.
Has anything changed for you?
Also u can email me and we can become prayer friends I’ve been praying to have someone like that in my life to pray with to fast with and to confide in I have no friends and I’m bullied by my family
My email is louisaclarke18 at mail dot com
I just started praying and fasting today.. I can join you. 🙂 And Laurensia God cares for you! Remember that always.. he does.. Even though you can’t feel it right now.. He wants you to know that he does.. and this greveving process is painful I know but God has promised beauty for ashes, he keep our tears in his palms.. he knows every little detail my dear friend. Just know that he is Able God.. and he is never changing. He loved us even when we were in sin.
God bless you my dear sisters in Christ!
Is it wrong if I pray to God to bring my ex back, because a lot of people said it’s wrong and useless but i can’t help it to pray that even tho it will be God’s will not my will
No, it’s not wrong to let your desires be made known to God, just let the Holy Spirit lead you in prayer. Ask God to help you to pray about the situation. And as you said let HIS will be done ?
My id is manbhu121 at gmail dot com
Sally/ Laurensia you can mail me here.
I’m going through a very similar situation right now. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and 10 months, but we had an argument last week and he decided to end our relationship after I went to speak with him on Friday night. I’m reeling in pain since then because how can it be that we were doing so great, and telling each other I love you’s, then end it? Since then, we have not spoken or have had any contact with each other, everything seemed so abrupt and drastic. Now that I’ve had more time alone with my thoughts and my pain, the only thing I could think of to do was cry and pray everyday.
I feel a deep sense of grief, and anger, but I now realize that there were a lot of little issues on his side, as well as mine. I realized that I was also neglecting God, and neglecting prayer, because I thought that as long as I was happy with my boyfriend, everything else didn’t matter. I wanted to please my boyfriend in every way and make him my top priority. I realized that I was neglecting myself and my relationship with my family, because I gave most of my time to him. I don’t have any hobbies, or outside interests, I just lived to eat, sleep, work, hang out with my boyfriend, and friends, and rinse and repeat. Many times, I would be ashamed to pray or cross myself in front of my boyfriend because he’s an atheist. It’s crazy how things can change so quickly, my boyfriend is amazing and we have a beautiful love story, but only after the breakup I was able to truly see what our issues were. I am now aware, and continue to become aware of things I did to hurt him, and what his issues were. I realized I neglected God and prayer, and wasn’t feeding my soul, and focused on my boyfriend 24/7.
People in healthy relationships are not co-dependent, and I now see why our relationship deteriorated over time. I was jealous, insecure, etc. and he was indifferent to certain issues, and stonewalled me whenever he didn’t want to deal with any major issues at all. He confessed that he learned that coping mechanism from his mother, which I now see how it affects him in more than one way. Only now, have I immersed myself in prayer everyday that I see these things, and I become instrospective about our relationship. He is a good man, and always treated me well, but we became too comfortable, without solidifying plans for our future. There’s a lot more, but over all, I’ve beeb praying more, and I realize I need God to guide me every step of the way. I pray to God that my boyfriend and I continue to date and eventually get married. I pray that God will soften his heart, and ease his emotion burdens and pains, as well as his mother’s, whom he learned this stonewalling behavior from. I pray to God we do not take each other for granted, and that our love is honest, compassionate, passionate, and respectful. I pray to God to forgive me for neglecting Him and his will.
I pray for forgiveness, discernment, and clarity in our relationship. I ask God to heal our hearts, and repair and reconcile our broken relationship and make it stronger than ever before, so that we can eventually marry each other. I pray to God to build my faith everyday, so that I can be strong and courageous, and also remember I’m an individuals who has motivation and drive in life. I pray to God to remind my boyfriend that our love is true and beautiful, and that our love for each other triumphs over any obstacle. I pray to God that even though my boyfriend doesn’t believe, that He softens his heart, and increases his faith in our love, because through my growing faith, we will persevere.
I pray to God to have mercy on me and my boyfriend so that we can be together again, and I will not forget I’m an individual person who needs God to guide her in life. Praying to God these past days has shown me how many friends and family genuinely care about me, and love me. God is good, and God is love, and God is always with us. God is compassionate, and sometimes takes away who or what we most love to see the error in our ways, especially in stubborn people like me.
I thank God for allowing me the opportunity to reflect on my life and relationship, and I pray he allows my boyfriend to do the same. Please God, I beg that you restore and reconcile my relationship with my boyfriend, and please forgive me for not putting you first and losing myself. Thank you for leading me back to You, even though the circumstances in which it had to happen are extremely painful. I thank you everyday, and I’m grateful for your everlasting and compassionate love, I have peace in my heart, but also pain, please hear my prayers, amen.
I have been in a complicated relationship which did not even last for 2 months. I fell inlove with a person younger than me, who is also from a different race and country. I can say we started on a wrong foot, we were worldly. It was his first time but he was more matured than me. Though i had experiences before, i admit i didnt know how to handle the relationship properly. I was just so in love with him, i want to be with him all the time. I was able to hint some things which made me think that he was forced to do some stuff for me but i ignored them. Aside from that, i had personal problem with trust and jealousy. I thought a lot of negative things and most of the time, i entertained those things and would go silent and not text him. He would say he would go crazy when i do that and he tried to be very patient and he would pray.
He is a Christian by the way, he would go to church and it made me guilty because its been a long time since i attended chuch. until we reached a part where i told him to be honest with me. He opened up and told me he is not happy anymore, that he is pressured of our relationship, and his life is ruined because of this. He said our relationship was not healthy anymore. After that, that’s the time i realized all my mistakes in our relationship. I asked him to come back. Actually, i begged him to come back and told him i would change for us, to give me one last chance. He rejected me and told me he didn’t love me and there is no chance for us to be back and we are not a match and i should let him go. This hurt so bad, i was not myself for days.
I asked help from my Christian friends and they gave me advice and one of them is to go to God. I realized also that i forgotten about Him even before the relationship. I was so guilty. I asked for forgiveness and asked for help to God. At the same time, i asked for him to give me a chance to fix things right in my relationship with my boyfriend. Well, it still sounds im begging. But this time, i surrendered my ex and my relationship to God and it was not easy. I get so lonely and almost get crazy when it gets silent. So i would cry and surrender again and again. I have to cry out again and again. And i told myself to be a better person this time, to remove all the negativities. And for the relationship, i want us to have another chance and start on the right foot, this time with God. But i made stupid things again, i posted something on an app we usually use which made him think im ruining my life and it makes him guilty. He said he “will love me back” so that i will not ruin my life. I want him back but not that way. I want him to sincerely be back because he loves me truely and not because he is forced or because of pity. But also a bad part of me would accept that situation as long as he is with me. But I want real love and relationship. I have been praying to God to always be with him and touch his heart to forgive me and remember my love and give me a chance. I pray that God will give us a chance and help us to start new and work this relationship. I am praying day and night. I want nothing else but him. And i want to work this out. I want us to be together again with God’s help.
I am going through something very similar right now with my boyfriend of 10+ years. Your testimony has given me hope that the path I am following to try and mend our relationship is the right path. I have realized that we both had strayed from the Lord and that the only way for us to find out way back to each other is to put God first. Your encouraging words have shown me that I am right to not give up, trust in the Lord, all will work out according to his plan.
I’m going thrugh the same thing… and the first thing that crossed my mind after I “woke up” and decided to rely on God was
oh yeah God touched me where it hurts the most so I can get closer to Him.” October was the break up and although he is “moving on “ too fast, and cheated on me. I pray everyday for a miracle to soften his heart and open his eyes! I’m still waiting on my miracle I know it will happen at the right moment! Thank you God you are amazing !
First time replying to anything on a site we have to worship in all our trial in all the hurt we just need to trust god to lead. I am experiencing something similar i was with my boyfriend for a year our relationship was hot and cold but i love him with every bone in my body. i was never a happy child growing up so with him i clinged to him for love. i had depression issues. i tried to hurt myself and end up in hospital.
i was at my lowest i was invited to church where i was delivered i was posessed with demons and god saved me. after that happened i felt a peace in my life but my boyfriend refuses to go in church he doesn’t want to hear about God’s laws and how much god hates sin he still wants us to have sex as normal but i can’t my spirit isn’t allowing me to fornicate so he said he needs sex whether it be from me or not I’m on my way to getting baptised soon …he’s possessed by demons i can tell but we decided to end things bcause he said he doesn’t want to be a hindrance in the path I’m taking and it breaks my heart because i love this man so much.
I pray god cleanse him the time we’re apart and send him back a different person he rejects wanting a relationship with god and i know that satan has him tied to this world he loves pleasures of this world my pastor told me he’s seeing marriage soon so I’m preparing myself to be a wife i don’t know if it’s him or if god has someone else for me but I’m trusting in him. i really pray it’s my boyfriend that god is goin to turn around to worship and honour him so that we both can serve god together and win souls for god where we both will have testimonies to share with others
…i am hurt right now but i ask god to calm my spirit strengthen my heart and my mind and lead me wherever he wants me to go god bless each and everyone of you on here and i pray god mends your wounds and give you your heart desires bring your love ones back a new person with the love of god so he or she would know how to love you be blessed in jesus Christ name.
Will pray for you Sharon! God bless you for taking the decision to be baptized!! Praise the Lord! When you honor HIM he HONORS your faith! Will uphold you and your guy in my prayers!
I am experiencing the same exact thing ladies.
I was with my gf for 6 months. We have been broken up for 2 months & haven’t communicated in 2 wks. Our relationship started off as a friendship. We both were going through relationship problems prior to us dating. Everything was going well. By the 5th month of us dating things began to get rocky. We would break up like every 4 days. She would do things intentionally to try and get back at me for speaking to a friend about a past relationship I didn’t take time to heal from before I got with her.
She broke up with me 2 days after my birthday. She said she was over everything & she wasn’t coming back this time, I pushed her away & im a liar who keep disrespecting her. She says I’m a liar Bc I kept a friendship with a co worker who she thought liked me & she insisted that I stop communicating with her. I did at first but then I continue to talk with my co worker Bc I knew that it was just a friendship. She said she felt like I was choosing my friends over her. I would pray to God to bring us back together during all our other break ups & he would. I felt like I was begging her & was losing myself all in the process to keep her happy. I knew I turned my back on God & wanted a good relationship with my ex & God . I even suggested to my ex that we should go to church she didn’t want to. That kind of turned me off from her . Also her going through my phone & trying to pick my friends turned me off as well . I was starting to become unhappy , but didn’t want to break up with her first. I wanted her to break up with me . She soon would. I didn’t know how to handle it because I am usually the one who leaves most of my relationships first. I felt like the final break up was God, Bc he saw how stressed I was, how I was putting her before him , how I was losing myself trying to prove my love & loyalty to her. She suggested that we could be friends& I told her I didn’t want that. Im too much in love with her to be her friend right now& it didn’t make sense to me Bc she said that I was a disrespectful liar. 2 weeks ago when I got the courage to cut all communication I was so hurt. After researching , praying , and now fasting I feel a lot better. I always tried to fill my void with people but this time around I filled it with God as I always tried to control things on my own , as I always tried to fix things on my own. I left it up to God. I still am sad & hurt but I know that God is working on me & when I last talked to my ex she had been praying as I never seen her pray while we were together . I pray for reconciliation. I pray and asked God to fix my relationship with him as well as hers & to bring us back together stronger & closer to him. I know that God is working & I know that God won’t let me down or turn his back on me.
I’m in a same situation pray for me..the reason of my break up was that i loved her and gave her first priority and i became selfish god warned many time when i was in relationship i was not the she desired but i was loyal and honest she found out many guys but she rejected them all for me only but now she is angry and unhappy now i was her to come back and god is showing i should put him at first place in my life I’m afraid that she will go to other guy she used to say that I’m her perfect one we had talked about our future our ministry and more and i have loved her and no other girl i know god will bring us back together i should go on my knees and ask for forgiveness and make a strong relationship with him first i know after that my relationship will be restored…
Please pray for me.
I am in highschool and my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me. He said that he does not mean that we are done inevitably but that in a way, this is maybe a break, maybe not. Right now, its over. It has been about a month and a half and ive been praying constantly, having break downs every now and then, but also not giving up on God. Even though I have my doubts and fears and worries, I pray to the Lord and ask him and am completely honest with him. I am lacking faith in him. I am lacking belief and trust in him and I pray that God, he will help me. While my ex and I were together, we promised each other that we would marry each other. And then it was over…all of it and I have just been devastated. he knows that I want to get back together. He said he will think about it but it just feels like everything is over. I just want to give up everything but at the same time, I know that I am the type of person who NEVER gives up. I am constantly praying, questioning God for an answer, praying for my ex, etc. I know that most of my prayers are selfish prayers but its just so hard….I just want my ex back. I know that what I desire might not fit in god’s plan for me….But I’ve been told and know that God can make anything happen. Anything is possible in God. I have been told that if I keep praying, he will listen. Of course, i know that God listens and may answer “to wait and be patient” or other answers but yeah…but I am so tired. I am exhausted and losing faith and trust and belief. I just want my ex back…please pray for me….
Out of anger and insecurities I hurt the one man who has brought me so much joy. I was his princess and he’d do anything for me. We did everything together and he was my best friend. I destroyed his valuables in my moment of anger last year October 2nd. Things have never been the same since. I offered to replace them he refused, I humbled my self, put away my pride and apologized wholeheartedly, we lost a puppy in January 2017, he was so broken and I bought him a new one as a way of apologizing, I tried everything and all my efforts just never worked. It’s almost 4 months now, of tears, no sleep, emptiness you name it on top of it all I lost my job in December and I’m a complete mess. Things went From talking everyday and seeing each other almost everyday to not seeing him anymore, and talking once in a while and it sucks big time. He sent me a text last week to my surprise saying he loves and misses me but still doesn’t know….we met through my aunt and he is like a son to her. She has decided to intervene and I pray so hard that our meeting is fruitful. Please have me in your prayers. He is the man of my dreams and the last time I delivered the puppy to him in November he expressed how disappointed he was in me, he never expected such a behavior from me because he has always boasted about how much of a good girl I am. He said all this happened at a time when he was thinking of taking things to the next level, which is marriage and now he is having doubts because he wonders if this is how I’m going to be handling difficult times in our marriage. ?
We are both born again and he has always been more committed to the Lord more than I. We were so happy that at some point I was so busy with work and my relationship, I had no time for God. I really feel God has taken away the 2 most important things in my life to get my attention. I’m just home miserable and I’ve been asking God to restore my relationship and get me a job and promised not to ever forget about him in good and bad times.
I really pray for restoration of all that I’ve lost
I’m praying for all of you! I’m in a period where I am trusting God to restore a relationship that I know he sent. I prayed for a man like him in July and he came back into my life in August. When he first came into my life, I was suffering from a lot of loss and pain. That combined with my own insecurities made us fall apart. I took it out on him and he finally got fed up. It wasn’t until after that I learned that I’d allowed the enemy to steal, kill and destroy what I prayed for. I tried to fix it by my own might but he was being cold and mean. Now I’m the one heartbroken and needing to forgive. However, God let me know that we need this time apart because what we were doing initially was leading us both on a path of destruction. I’m trusting God to mend our relationship and make us new in him. I’m trusting God to get the glory from our teunion and ultimately our testimony. Have faith that God loves us and will restore what the enemy has attempted/temporarily stolen. God loves us so much. God is a redeemer and a restorer. Have faith in him. I’m praying for faith for all of us. Without faith it is impossible to please God – Hebrews 11:6
Please our Lord by having faith. God bless you all.
Praying for you all!
i have been through the same situation..but in my case i have different story i met a girl on youtube comment section n we got into the conversation on the hang out it 3 years ago and at first i loved her because she was a worshiper n had good qualities as christian and we got close to each other n she used to tell me that there was something attracting her towards me n yet we are not met each other and after meeting on youtube and talking for like 2 months she told me that she had boyfriend he was from greece and i was broken when i came to know this and that guy was anti god..so i used to explain her that he might be cheating on you or something like that but she never understood what i wanted to say and after many argue n heartbreaks we decided to go our own ways and after that we never talked for like 6 months but one day i had thought to message her i did and she told me that guy cheated on her with his friend..and as she knew it i love her she gave the chance and i was fine at impressing her with the way i think n more i used to teach her about god and after many prayers by me we became couple and she started loving me and more things were there but the main thing is yet she has not saw me she wanted a guy like tall n handsome but im opposite of it and one day she forced me to her at a worship concert and i was not ready physically to go n meet her i knew it after seeing me she will be disappointed and and it happened …next day she had a big fight with me that why u did not tell me u are not the guy as i wanted n etc but after that too she could not left me such impact i had made on her in 3 years and everything is same in us like she is guitar player and me too she is an worshiper n me too and our thoughts too at many points but now i dont know what happened she just wanna stay alone and she broke up with me and posting things on her instagram n more im confused that she loved me after seeing me too and it was there for 2 months but now what happend i do not know ..i know only one thing i love her..what should i do now….
Georg, I think you should give her some space and use the time away to seek God with all your heart. I believe a person should love and appreciate you as you are, doesn’t matter whether you are not tall or handsome by the world’s standard. God accepts you as you are and can lead you to someone who does too. I pray the Lord guides you and teach you the way to go.
hey Ephi thank you so much for the perfect guidance…i was so much desperate thank you very much for encouraging me…i speak blessing in your life…i can’t even share these thing with the people I’m surrounded with…god bless you…
Feel the same way pray for me I been with my ex for 2 years and we broke up but the more I pray the more I keep having dreams about him and dreams about him texting me and saying hey to me so I don’t know if that’s a message or sign or what but I pray we get back together on god timing and start going back to chruch and praying before we go to sleep
Will pray for you Kiya and Georg. I’ve been in your shoes and know how confusing and frustrating those dreams can get especially without much progress. I’m still in my process and journey but God has revealed so much to me. God can take a mess and turn it into a message. God is able to do exceedingly and abundantly above ALL we can ask. From experience I would say consult with God about everything concerning your ex. Im in the same exact boat and have been for over 9 years. Don’t doubt God’s ability. Its too much for me to comment but I wouldn’t mind sharing with anyone on here via email. I feel like God lead me here for somebody. Im not at my destination but God has given me a ministry to uplift those in my same position because I have confidence God will bring His promise to fruition. Its not about the relationship it’s about no matter what happens, are you willing to trust what God is doing and trying to tell you. I’ve had a spiritual awakening in a sense about 7 months ago where God revealed to me who He wanted me with. It was my ex but I hadn’t spoke to him in over a year so I questioned God asking if He was sure which is pretty foolish to ask our creator is He sure when He knew me when i was in my mother’s womb. Nothing is new to God, He just choses to reveal things to us when He feels we are ready. Now I had been having dreams about him before God spoke to me but I honestly just thought it was nothing. We tried to get it right several times but failed so I figured that the relationship was dead even though I honestly had feelings and love for him but I realized I serve a God who can resurrect dead things and make them alive again. As soon as God revealed this information, I got an instant urge to draw closer to God. I believe that anything God tells you, will immediately draw you to him. If the Word is of satan, I think it would draw you away from God. I’ve been saved and in church EVERY Sunday since I was a baby but I literally just started really getting to know God for myself and I’m 25. I’ve never been this close to God ever and that is why I believe He has gave me so much more clarity on the things I was once confused about, especially the dreams. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. I can admit I put my relationship with my ex above God and that was a major mistake and that’s why I think God separated us. He wants and has to be number one. God doesn’t want to take away people we love but as soon as they start becoming a priority over Him, He will shut it down in a sense. Like I said I’m not at my destination so I can’t say that I’ve got my promise yet but I claim it in advance because I trust God. I will say that my ex and I have reconnected after a little over a year after God told me he was the one but it’s so much more work to be done. The tests don’t stop….trust me. When you and you ex do reconnect if that’s God’s will, get rid of how you see it going in your head because you’re no longer in control, God is and He’s going to do something different. He says it in His word (1 Corinthians 2;9). I just knew that when we reconnected, it would be hugs and kisses and a love feast lol, but that would of been too easy. If that would of happened, would I still feel the need to draw closer to God after He has given me what ive been praying for, probably not ( I’m being transparent and honest) which is why its not like i imagined. Its nothing like that because God knew I would jump right back to my old ways. Its friendship only for us which is okay with me because I don’t want to jump too fast and ruin what God is doing. Everything is in his timing. Also don’t let the opinions of others deter you from what God has affirmed in you. I have gotten to a point where I don’t even mention my situation to even the closet people around me ( not saying anybody else has to, this is just what I’ve done.) Its not that they don’t mean well at all but it’s that I’ve got to stay focused on God and His will. People will give their opinions from there own experiences and sometimes it will confuse you but God has infinite wisdom and doesn’t need any help with planning your future. You will have days where you are so sure that God told you right and you fully believe what He has told you and then you will have days where you’re not even sure if this is your word and want to give up so when that happens, I’ve learned to get down on my knees and ask God to take control…i say I don’t know what you’re doing God but I trust you. That’s what He wants to hear. God wants us to humble ourselves and just say I can’t fix this relationship or do this without you..i need you Lord. It took me so many failed attempts at my relationship to finally just say this and that’s when God gives us true mercy and favor for God loves a humble heart. Vow to trust Him no matter what the situation looks like. Although I would have never wanted my relationship to go the way it did and has gone, God told me that I’m not putting you thru this to hurt you, I’m trying to strengthen you so you will be able to strengthen someone else, and when they ask who helped you and your husband (speaking it into existence) make it thru after so much has happened, I will say the Lord. Its all about bringing Him glory. If it doesn’t bring glory or align with His word, you know it’s not of God. Everyone’s story is different and everything i wrote has been ny experience so you can take it with a grain of salt if you wish. I hope I’m helping a least a little bit for someone and not just rambling. I will continue to pray for God’s will to be done in each one of your lives as I ask you do the same for me. God bless and I’m here to talk. God can do all things BUT fail!
hey rhonet thank you so much for encouraging us here..it was my mistake too that i gave her the first priority and now everything is messed up i don’t think that she will come back to me or god will bring her back into my life because she is messed she became abusive and rude the pride of her looks and i think she was all about looks and physics..she insulted me so much i used to think that i should put it all before god but now i don’t see any hope for my relationship with her..she’s gonna get a guy she used to desire from her childhood who could be tall and handsome…now i don’t care i gave up i tried my best to hold ..she got cheated before getting in relationship with me a tall and handsome guy cheated her but i think looks are everything to her..she thinks that many guys love her because her looks so she don’t need me or my love because there are many guys waiting for her anyways i stopped thinking of her..if u read this reply me
I completely understand and respect what you have decided to do. God will bring you the right woman in His due time!
thank you so much and keep me in your prayers i hope god will use me to help out other youths going through the same situations..
No problem and I will surely keep you in my prayers. God will indeed use you. One of my favorite verses that comes to mind is Luke 22 31-34
” Simon, Simon satan has asked to sift all you like wheat but I have prayed for you Simon, that your faith do not fail. And when thou be converted, strengthen your brethren.”
God knew that the devil was trying to destroy Simon but God prayed that he kept his faith thru it all. God also knew that whatever experience Simon was going thru, was going to change him but not only change him but put him in position to help his brethren when they get tried by the devil. His problem put him in position for his purpose. If you didn’t go thru what you did with this young lady, then you would never know the power you had to help and heal others. You already have it in you. Be blessed Georg and continue to walk in faith.
Hi Rhonet I’d like to connect with you via email. You almost sound like you are telling my story. I’ve now decided not to tell anyone about my situation because it always derails me from what God has said about my relationship. I confided in my cousin yesterday and she left me worse than i was before. I have received 3 confirmations on different occasions from 3 different people that this relationship is of God and I should pray, I have had visions/dreams too, there is this one time I fell into a very short sleep during the day this past Christmas eve, we had not spoken for a week and i told myself I am going to ignore him the same way he has ignored me the day he keeps in touch. I saw a cellphone with a message saying ‘I miss you, please don’t reject me’ I snapped from the short sleep I was in, reached out for my cellphone because it felt so real, I was so hurt to discover it was just a dream, however, later in the evening he sent me a beautiful Christmas message and I replied back. I have had a few of those visions/dreams, Right now I need some encouragement. I would like for us to talk via email. After receiving such confirmations I don’t know what to do. I have been praying, I fasted 21 days, some days I feel so positive and on some I just got rock bottom like today. Sometimes I even doubt God and I know it’s bad, I sometimes even wonder if there is God (even worse) because I have never experienced his hand in my life.
I’m so sorry for what you are going through. You sound like a very kind and loving man. I know it’s every little girls dream when they grow up to want the most tall and handsome man and as you grow older and experience life and non of that matters, You become mature enough to know as a woman that it is the heart that matters. The way I love my boyfriend right now he was never the man I pictured being with growing up but I look at him now and thank God for choosing him for me even though we are not in a good place.
Your woman sounds confused, she doesn’t know what she wants. It’s almost like she is with you but she still wants to search elsewhere to see if she can find anything better. That’s unfair. I know what it’s like to love someone and not get the same. I’m the worst person to give advice right now because I’m not in a good place. But I pray wholeheartedly for God to heal you and for his will to be done in your life.
Hi Les. I am completely humbled by your comment and would love to speak via email with you. I wholeheartedly understand where you are coming from and love to help and encourage anyway God leads me to. As I mentioned before, I believe that God has called me to this ministry and even though I’m not all the way there in my relationship yet, I am seeing God’s hand in it. I believe as God strengthens me in my journey, He has called me to strengthen others in theirs. I have had the SAME EXACT thoughts you are having but God is helping me push thru those feelings and has given me this supernatural peace that He is going to fix everything. We will connect tho because there is so much i want to share and testify with you. Your comment is right on time. My email is rhonetjacobsb at gmail dot com
@ ehpi,rhonet,les you guys are so kind and I’m thankful of god that there are people god is using for people like me…it was not easy to forget her but i can;t help it…and yeah she’s confused sometimes she says this and other time that..and she was impatient…first of all she gotta be mature about everything..i see other beautiful girls having a boyfriend not tall n handsome so why are they with such guys because of the person is walking with god..and i don’t call it love making you feel useless and worthless always talking about looks and showing off see how good looking i’m..now i don’t know what you guys has to say about my situation but i think she will not come back and i don’t even want to see her face…we have not talk since 4 weeks i tried my best..we both got many points where we are weak at but i did not give up she did..she want handsome and she had it before me and that guy cheated on her and i was the person who told her that he is cheating on you she said he loves me..and after a long time she said he cheated on her..now i’m dying to see what happens next..i’m not disable i have many options in my life..
Hey Georg. So happy that you aren’t letting her bring you down. In no way will I play God and try and predict what will happen in the future with you two but no one should make you feel less than. If you have prayed about it and you feel like all you have left to do is to wash your hands of the situation, do so. God is preparing you for the woman He wants for you and she will never make you feel less than. Ask Him to reveal her to you, He he will when He feels your ready. God bless you.
Hey Rhonet thank you for praying for me..I hope you’re doing well..8 months has been passed.. I’m doing good in my life.. I’m out of that hateful relationship I’m not in contact with that girl and it came about when God revealed me that she’s not for me when everything was messed up it was difficult for me to accept the fact and the last time when I talked to her left me heart broken it was different and hard time and somewhere it gave me wound but time passed and after 8 months I’m doing good..thanks for your prayers thanks to everyone in this comment section who has pray for me ..yeah and I would love to connect with you via Gmail..
So happy to hear from you Georg. Can’t believe it’s been 8 months! So glad you are in a better head space in your life. My email is rhonetjacobsb at gmail dot com and I am available to email whenever you need me. God Bless you!
Hey Rhonet I have so many things going on but I don’t know why your Gmail is not visible…you take mine georgdisuza97 at gmail dot com… regards
Please keep me in prayer. For two months, I casually dated and hooked up with a guy I met online. Initially I knew in my heart that he wasn’t sent to me by God but I continued to see him because I questioned my instinct. We grew to really like and care deeply about each other and talked about joining a small group at his church, visiting each other’s church and starting a relationship. I’ve never met a guy like him, he’s wonderful, and I really saw myself building a future with him, marriage, children and all. There was strain in our situationship because of the hooking up and is feeling guilty about it and not really creating and sticking to solid boundaries. Also he’s a new Christian and has not been saved yet and I am saved. I felt like a hypocrite trying to tell him that we could only seriously move forward if he got saved. One day while sat church I prayed that God would have His way and let His will be done with us. Well that evening was the beginning of the end of us. He told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship anymore and he had met someone at his church who really liked him and he realized they had more in common and shared interests and similar personalities. He said he didn’t know what to do because he really liked me and was confused. I told him I’d give him time to figure things out but a few days later I ended things for good. He said he really liked her and they connected better than he and I did. I was so hurt but then again I did pray for God’s will and that’s what it was. I miss him terribly but I am drawing closer to God and accepting God’s plan. But I have this feeling deep inside that it’s not over for us. I don’t know if that’s me not letting go, trying to be hopeful or doubting that anyone else will come along. But I can’t shake his feeling. He and I were falling in love. I’ve never felt this way about anyone. Yes, I was infatuated. But why do I feel that he will be back?
Your story is just like mine but there’s a girl involved.
My relationship is kinda in a bad shape now, me and my bf we argue all the time, like am the one who always has to apologize even when am not wrong, my bf doesn’t like having conversations about what’s wrong with us and how we could solve the issues we have.
We almost broke up yesterday but I thank God that did not happen. I fasted and prayed and still I am and I ask God why give me happiness and then you like want to take it away from me, I cried, I prayed. I couldn’t stand how my bf treated me like he don’t care.
I could tell him I love him and he doesn’t tell me he loves me back like he used to I got hurt and felt like my world was crushing,. Today finally he accepted to have a conversation. I need to get answers from him, I just pray that this doesn’t end, that all will be okay.
I need you guys to please help me pray, I don’t want to lose him, I love him so much and I Know he loves me too.
Please help me pray for my relationship.
I am back. Wow, reading back over my comment…omg!!! I’m so happy that things ended with that guy. I thought I liked him but I actually lusted after him. We were in sin and he tempted me to sin. It was just a bad situation and I thank God he caused it to end. My feeling that he would be back was spot on. He would text me once a month saying hi and asking how I’m doing. I would respond but he wouldn’t respond back. Finally I just blocked him. He’s out of my life for good. I’m actually getting to know someone else in a healthy way and who has been around even when I was interested in the other guy. This new guy is everything I want in a friend and would want in a man and husband. I pray God allows us to marry one day. Who knows, I may come back with an update!
I need some help fixing my relationship with my ex girlfriend. We broke up about a week ago. We have one child together. Our main problem in our relationship was communicating with each other. I really need some help fixing this relationship. I love her with all my heart and I’m willing to change for her. I need god in my life right now.
I will keep you in my prayers! Surrender the situation to God and give up control so He can work. God won’t open up a door if you dont take your hand off the knob first if that makes sense. Get closer to Him and let Him worry about your relationship. God does His best work in our darkest times, we just have to trust Him. God Bless you!
My ex and I were in a relationship for almost 5 years. I always felt that God brought us together as he was nothing of what I wanted but yet everything that i needed. I have hurt him a lot and have not loved him the way I should have. This past year, although the relationship was not doing good, he asked me to marry him. I said no as my goal was to fix our issues before moving forward. My no was for him the end of our relationship and the beginning of a new relationship with one of his friend.
I have been feeling sad / mad for months (4 months). I have asked him to give me another chance. He said that he loves me but don’t see how he could be happy with me. Plus now that there is someone in the picture he cannot leave her has she has done nothing wrong to him. I tried everything humanly possible to win him back and i failed each time.
I later realized that only God can fix this “if this is the plan he has for us”. I have i have been praying and praying. The more I pray the more I am thankful for this breakup. it’s not easy but it was well needed. I am leaning on God, I am transforming into a better person and seriously it shows. Everyone is telling me that i am glowing. Do I still want him back? Yes, but this battle is not my battle, this is God’s battle. I trust God with my future. I pray and believe that my relationship will be restored in God’s timing. Even if it doesn’t I know that god’s plan are greater than my own.
Why God is not restoring mine. Do you know how hurt I am? I am mental state now.
There is victory in Jesus! Do not let the silence overwhelm you. Lift your hands, rejoice in the Lord, give him thanks for a time for him to do an amazing work and that their is none more able! Nothing just happens. The Lords way are higher than ours. My boyfriend outed me one weekend for what seems like for no reason. This was April 2017. Oh the depression I was in. I couldn’t even eat. What did I do wrong ? Why? I fought for him so hard. Through the next year I prayed and prayed. Prayed for his well being and life. I couldn’t really see how we’d come back together after a while but with the smalles faith I knew to be true God is able to do anything. I started praying “well God if it’s not us then who is it” I also would pray to never hurt that way again and for him to please come back in my life if we are able to make it through and be equipped to love each other. Months after no contact.. he reached out. I stood my ground and gradually let him back in. I knew I wanted him I was just careful. This was in June. Towards the end of August he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship. He has feelings for me and wants to be with me but is just not ready. I respect him for the honesty for I wouldn’t want him to be half in half out of the relationship. I want him when he’s all In. We still remained talking and in our lives but lately it’s been quite and I haven’t heard from him. I know he loves me but he’s distracted by the world around him. Doesn’t want the commitment right now. It’s shattering. This was never him! I was waiting, The Lord heard my prayers and delievered and then he put me in another wait. I’m hurting but I give thanks knowing that Gods ways are higher and he has the power to soften his stubborn heart and restore us in a better light. Fears and worries in our heads are just lies and the enemy coming to steal. Wait well. Jesus is undefeated.
I am back again with another update. What I have learned is we have to accept the will of God. Rejection may hurt but it always serves a purpose. If a relationship ends, let it end. Grow, heal, learn and move on. Anyone who is supposed to be in your life, will be in your life. What God has for you is for YOU. No one else. If he closes a relationship door, accept that it’s for your good. Even as painful as it is. The Bible says that God knew us in our mother’s womb. He knows the plans he has for us. Trust God’s plan. Ask God for wisdom, he said in his word if anyone lacks wisdom let them ask the Lord for it. Ask God for understanding, ask him for peace, his peace that surpasses all understanding. Lean not into your own knowledge but turn to God for direction and understanding. It’s so imperative that we invite God into our love life. After all, God IS love. He created love, he created relationships and marriage and he created us to be in relation with others. I’m Genesis God said it was not good for man to be alone. So trust God with your love life and turn over to him every like, want, need, desire. Allow him to send your God ordained spouse, if you don’t understand it, look it up. I’m not going to give advice to each comment and say do this, do that, call them, block them, meet up, make up. No. I’m here to tell you to PRAY. Really seek the Lord. Ask the Lord for his peace, his will and allow his will to be done. So all who are struggling with a relationship, my advice to you is to step back, sincerely seek the Lord, pray and LET HIS WILL BE DONE. That’s what I did and I now have PEACE.
Hello everyone. I am in a relationship with my boyfriend almost 3 years. I met him on Facebook and we started dating since then. I was going crazy for him. I couldn’t concentrate on anything I was doing. I shared things about him with my friends and families. I was working at a hotel making money and all that and he wasn’t working. He’s a musician but nothing much was going on for him. I fell in love with this guy and I knew he was the one for me. Where i was living I had to leave and find somewhere else to go because the landlord wanted his place. I was out hunting on most of my day off and I tried and tried but nothing turns up for me. I was also living with my daughter after 2 years of ended relationship with her dad. She was giving me so much problems in school and I was so burdened down and depressed.
Anyways, after meeting this new new we talk and talk getting to know each other well. I was to first to visit him and I was really scared because alot of things going on in this world. We met and i stayed at his place and even more I got to loved him more and more. I went back to my place and was still hunting for somewhere and I have a set time to leave the house because the landlord needed it. My bf asked me if I wanted to move in with him and my daughter and make it better for a man in my daughter’s life. I think about it quite well for some days I until I said yes. I resigned from my job to make things right myself and my daughter.
I was so happy after leaving that house. I tried seeking but nothing turns up for me. One day I asked my bf to make a pig pen for me to raise pigs for myself. He said yes he’s gonna do it, I ask him over and over nothing changes. I asked for so many things to be done and nothing still changes. I saw him using his phone and when he saw me, he hid it. I wasn’t thinking about anything at all. On my birthday he did some thing nice for me and I was so happy. He use his phone to take pictures of what he had made. Then he out down his phone and went to the kitchen. I went in his phone and saw pictures of naked females and he sent his naked body to them. I was upset and wondering why, what did I do? He said they’re just friends and I debate on it and he doesn’t like the debating thing.
Few months after, we were next door when he gave me his phone to charge and I went in it and saw different pictures again and I didn’t say much but I was upset. He deleted what he had and I passed that. I had done alot of things for him but he doesn’t see it that way. Another time we argue on things that he promises me to do for me and I wasn’t working so I needed it. I begged him to do things else I’m leaving, nothing changes.
In February we were next door where a fire started and he was assisting them. I told him I was going to finish cooking. He have me his phone unlock and I went in again. More and more pictures of naked females and he did the same thing with him. He keeps denying whatever he did wrong and blaming everything on me. I was sooooooo upset, depressed and didn’t know what to do and what to say to anyone. His friends were always covering for him and said that he loves and don’t want to lose me but they didn’t know what was going on in this house. I didn’t say anything about it to him. I went and order a flask of strong rum and I drank it and everything thing changed since then.
After drinking the rum, he could figure that something wasn’t right with me but he didn’t say anything. The next morning I couldn’t talk, my speech has gone completely and my memory. I tried to talk but it wasn’t working for me. He asked me what was wrong and I only had to shake my head saying nothing. He kept on watching me but I had to go to school in the morning. I took a taxi and went to school and my teacher was wondering why I was acting like that and. I was praying the teacher didn’t ask me anything in the class with the students. I would be ashamed of myself.
I went home, he was still trying to talk to me but nothing was working. I was worried also about my daughter and I can’t talk to her. I just stayed there looking around. The second morning I went to school and the teacher came to my group asking for our SBA’s and she started to talk to me but sometimes wasn’t right with me. The teacher kept watching me, but I like her. I went home again and my bf waited on me at the gate and he was depressed and can’t get an answer. He went to work and I stayed home with the children.
I started to use my WhatsApp to see if I could see clearly and to recognize anything that even send days before I got sick. I texted my best friend and I tried to give her some signs that something wasn’t right with me. She started to wonder if this is me or my daughter and I send her some messages but I don’t know but I did. She calls me asking If my daughter was the one with my phone and I said something but she didn’t hear what I was saying and I tried to say it again and she try an it didn’t work. She said “what’s wrong with you why you can’t talk ” and I said something that I don’t even know. She said she want to talk to my daughter and my daughter told her that I can’t talk good from yesterday.
My best friend came for me that night and my bf left work and brought me to meet my best friend at the hospital. I didn’t get through because the doctors say nothing is wrong with me and I should stop the pretending. So I friend told my bf that its better she bring me to her place and get this matter taken care of. She brought me to a doctor there and that doc said nothing is wrong with me. Omg! I was just too stressed. My friend checked with her doc and told him what’s wrong with me and I wasn’t talking and I usually talk. I went in to her doc and he checked me and asked me some questions about me. He ask me my name even though he had it infront of him on my docket. I tried to tell him my name but it wasn’t clear at all so I showed him a pen and paper and I wrote down my name. Then he ask if I know my age and I shake my head saying yes and I wrote that down. After he ask “what’s wrong with you because everything seems fine and I don’t know how to write anything more my memory was gone. The doc gave my friend a referral to do a CT-Scan and I did.
The report came back that I had a stroke and its the left part of my head had it and my mouth was leaning and I started to get treatment then. I came home to my bf and the meds started to work on me so I could say something just a little. I asked my bf if he’s hurting me he said no, I ask is he is doing anything to hurt me anyway at all. He said no.
About a month we had an argument and I mentioned that he gave me the stroke and he wasn’t happy about it and he showed me his phone and search it but he deleted them few days before that. I had took the same pictures he sent on my phone and he was so shocked!! He was nervous about all he did and he said he’s sorry and all that.
Now! It’s June he’s cheating on me with a nurse lady. He had her car coming home with and so many things. I love this man but I think he doesn’t loves me one bit. I have conversations with him and this girl having sex, he’s sleeping out etc. I’m here stressed out and I can’t be stressed because of the stress I had in February. I told him that I have his conversations and he was disappointed that I have them.
Now I’m still begging him to stay with me and talk this over but he said no. I don’t know what to do anymore. I know that prayer changes things but I just have to believe in God. He doesn’t want me to leave because he was the one that carried me and let me lose my job and all that. But he’s willing to leave the relationship and move on with his new wife to be. They’re dating 2 months now and he’s just happy with me. He said his feelings faded from me and he doesn’t love me anymore. I told him I will make things work out just please give me the chance.
Now I’m on my own again living in his house. My reason to stay here is because I’m building my house and I want to finish it and then move. I would do the most important part of it. I’m hurting and all this time I’m writing this message with tears falling from my eyes. I don’t know what to say and what to do. This is just too much for me. I’m here praying and crying my heart out. I will continue to pray much more onwards for him to come back to me. This is too much for me right now. Please pray for me while I pray for you in Jesus name… Amen
I know it’s been years since you posted this, but wanted to say that your story made my day a little better.
I’m going through something similar, I’d been single for 7 years when I met my boyfriend. I suppose I should start calling him my ex, but it hurts my heart just thinking of it.
I’m a very laid back and silent woman and he’s almost the opposite of me but we love each other. Around the end of March this year, he invited me to his city so I could meet his family, but he was drunk when I arrived, used bad words and called me names. I stayed calm and it pasts, But he kept drinking and sometimes gets angry. The next month he confessed that he had cheated on me several times and that it was the reason he’s been drinking.
It hurt me bad because I trust him with all my heart, it made me feel as if I’m not important to him and that I wasn’t enough, he stopped drinking after he confessed but my anger started to build up back then, I decided to forgive him, it took a lot of strength but slowly, I started to accept the fact that he’s only human and he made some mistakes while he was drunk. Of course it hurt my trust but I’m starting to trust him more and more, just like before.
But a few weeks ago he suddenly told me he decided to move back to his city(he’s studying in my town), and that we’ll get to see each other only once a year if I don’t move with him. He’ll be staying at his mom’s, I’ve searched everywhere to rent a place without any luck and asked him if he could ask his school to get a room so that I can live in the same city with him and that I’ll pay for it, he said that it’s too much work. And I broke down and said “I can’t handle this anymore” then said that if he don’t want to do something to save our relationship then I don’t see a point in seeing each other once a year.
We broke up just like that, of course I didn’t mean to say it like that, I just couldn’t find any other words and I was frustrated.
We were planning to spend Christmas together with his family, I had bought a ticket already but had no place to stay after we broke up. It felt like I lost some part of myself and I stopped getting out of my bed.
But one day when I was laying on my bed I started to pray. I prayed for a place to stay in and that I don’t want to be alone for Christmas, a few days ago my uncle called saying that I could stay at his house with my cousins.
I also prayed for another chance and that I needed to find someone to fly our birds to my city(they were in Denmark), it took several days of me and my friend asking people we know if they could accompany our zebra finches but we found one! I believe God helped me both times! Our Zebra Finches arrived safely last week and they’re enjoying their new home with us here.
But I still have one last prayer that hasn’t been granted yet, that is to get another chance to get back with my boyfriend(ex), I’m very protective of myself but I know he really loves me and I appreciate and proud of him because he can confess instead of hiding his mistakes. I love him dearly and would really love to get back with him, I don’t care which city I’m in as long as I’m with him.
If anyone out there could pray for me once a day, I bet it’ll help a lot. And please teach me how you pray because I’m not sure if I’m doing it right, I just start talking to God, I start by telling him how my day went and how I feel even though I know he knows, then I pray for my boyfriend, my family and his family, and I usually end my prayer by thanking him for this life and something I’m grateful for that day.
Please pray for me, I need a miracle.
Thanks for sharing, Kika. I am praying for you.
I think it’s great to tell God how you feel when you pray. Pray to the Father, through the Son and by the Holy Spirit.
I would say, also, listen in prayer, read the scriptures and be willing to accept God’s long-term plan for you, even if it’s something other than the relationship you have now (He’s our ultimate authority with Jesus as our Lord and Master).
Also, here’s a good article about how to pray: https://www.crosswalk.com/faith/prayer/how-to-pray.html
Hope that helps and please post back and let us know how you are doing.
Will definitely pray for you Kika. The word says bring your request or petitions to the Lord and He will give you the peace that transcends all understanding to guard your heart in Christ Jesus. You are already praying the right way. You are just talking to God. Come to Him humble and speak His word back to Him. Whatever your heart feels tell Him, because He knows what we stand in need of before we even get on our knees and ask. I read in my devotions last night that it’s no need to beat around the bush with God, just say it. Let Him know the desires of your heart. That’s intimacy with God! Lastly always remember that there is NOTHING too hard for God. Surrender the situation to Him and leave it at His feet. Be still and know that He is God. He will tell you your next move when He feels like your ready. Be anxious for nothing but in everything make your request know to God. He doesn’t want us worrying about anything. Just take it to the Lord in prayer and then let Him work. Be still and let the Lord work! God Bless you and I am praying for your peace. Keep God first and He will show you things you never knew.
i am going through a similar situation and this is inspiring, we drifted apart and i ended up breaking it off after 2 years.. the relationship started falling apart in August, we tried to make it work but still it felt like we were having mixed feelings although i still love him. i have left everything in Gods hands and i hope and pray we may come back to each other stronger. it has been 2 weeks since the break up but
I have always had a relationship with God, however; I was raised Catholic but was not a fan of the Catholic church – so I maintained a personal relationship with God.
I had a very rocky relationship with another ex-boyfriend of 5 years, that ended with me having PTSD from verbal and emotional abuse. When we broke up, I was relieved and never looked back.
I moved back across the country to where my family still lived. Although I quickly realized I was happier on the other side where I had moved and broken up with my now ex-boyfriend.
2 years later; after being bothered by friends and family for months, I finally joined an online dating site and met an incredible man after 5 days. Because I still hadn’t moved back to where I had put in my transfer, it was an online “relationship” for about 3 months. SO many things aligned with us – it was almost scary. I have no doubt that it was God that brought us together (there were a few other signs and instances that I won’t go into). He is Christian, and has brought me closer to God and into his church.
He was in the middle of a divorce (not his choice) and realized he needed time to heal, so we became friends. We would see each other 1-2 times a week but would naturally fall into a relationship pattern, which scared him as he wasn’t ready. But I would have this reassurance come over me, telling me to be patient.
A year later, he asked me to be his girlfriend. We had an incredible relationship, respectful, loving – everything you could hope for a relationship to be. I got along with his kids and family so well; we would go to church, which I loved.
He would talk about our future, and would talk about marriage; how we would already be married if he wasn’t still so broken. but then…
COVID hit – which didn’t allow us to see each other and suddenly (3+ months). Initially we made it work, Facetiming and texting. However; stress from that and other personal things began to wear on us, he stopped talking about wanting to get married and actually started saying he didn’t want to. (He doesn’t handle emotional stress well). He got some news from his kids regarding his ex, which sent him into a bit of a tailspin. This; along with pressure from his parents, siblings and one of his daughters wanting to marry me I think caused him to shut down. He decided he needed some time and space so he wanted to take a “break” which 2 weeks later, to the day, turned into a “break up”, where he was questioning his feelings over the last 10 months. The whole conversation, I had an extremely weird calm come over me, which I fully believe was God… where normally I would be in tears, but all I kept hearing in my soul was “Don’t worry, it will be okay, this is only temporary” and “Don’t worry, you’ll be together, he doesn’t know what he is saying”.
This man is truly amazing, so kind and loving. We didn’t fight, we would always laugh. He made me a better person and Christian.
This man is so stubborn, and though he is Christian; he tends to get into his own head to the point where I am worried he ignores God’s voice. I have been praying, and have seen where I have gone wrong; while I would pray and praise God for this man and his family, I don’t think I did it enough.
I hope this is God saying “not right now”, for this man to heal fully from his past relationship and the demons that come with it, while we can’t see each other anyway. It’s been over a month now; I am trying not to lose hope. I believe we will be together again.
God is good, ALL the time. Please pray for his healing and for our restored relationship.
For many years I would pray the Lord to lead a wonderful woman with a beautiful soul and her life in order to me. He eventually blessed me with such a person and then some. She was far more than what I asked for and could ever expect.
The woman I was seeing for 2 years broke up with me in April because she was afraid she wouldn’t be able to give me what I deserve, marriage. Her past relationships have really scarred her which has given her a fear of commitment (Gamophobia). She and I would talk of the future together and start a family if it weren’t too late due to our ages. It was during one of our conversations about loving each other and proceeding to the next step of our relationship when she scared herself (due to her past) and she thought it would be best to end the relationship. Instead of facing her fears and handing them over to God she decided it was best to run from them.
We have not spoken since as she doesn’t reply to my texts or calls. I’m very heartbroken as I knew she was the one God had desired for me. I’m trying my best to keep my faith and know God is in control. I pray He blesses the relationship leads her back to me soon for full restoration miracle.
Chris, I am praying for you that your faith in God will remain strong and that she comes to her senses.