I am only 16. about a year ago I met a girl at a cancer benefit. Sooner or later, we were going out. Things were great and I believe she was my first love. But we were together over summer and when school came along I had too much pressure to deal with and she was pushing more serious with me, and I believed I couldn’t take it. I thought I was over her and was wrong. She told me there’s a new guy and I am crushed.
She did say though, after later telling her some of my feelings that in the future she thinks it’s possible we could get back together. And I would really want this. But now she’s all head over heels for this boy and he just asked her to prom. Thing is, she’s a junior and he’s a senior. He’s leaving to college, and she knows that it may not work out.
My pain is so tough and I’m looking for answers in God. Where do I go from here? I am praying for strength as well as a guidance. But I really wanna be with her.
What should I do and how does God help me?
Ring her up and tell her how you feel.
I say this because twenty years ago when I was your age I went through the same thing- I lost him and I never got over it. I have a wonderful career and lots of friends so I have not wasted my life- and most importantly I am a Christian and I know God loves me. But I also know that it was His original intention to be with the man I lost. I wish he had had the courage back then to ring me- I would’ve dumped the other guy.
seek ye first the KINGDOM OF GOD AND ALL OTHER THINGS WILL BE ADDED UNTO YOU.
also as it says in many verses and chapters in Proverbs beware of Women…especially the non-christian ones..find a VIRTIOUS CHRISTIAN GIRL WHO LOVES THE LORD.AND IF you are not saved ASK JESUS/GOD ALMIGHTY TO SAVE YOU.
That’s good advice!
I am going through a heartbreak at the moment. the Lord has been wonderful to me.He has given me the strength to stand even i keep breaking down alwais. Read Pslams 23 it has all the answers we need.
I suggest you follow Keith’s advice, I believe the Spirit of GOD led him to remind you that. There is much ahead, just stand on the right track with GOD. Hope you make it GOD’s way without having to compromise in anyway.
I understand your pain that you feel. I believe there isn’t one person that has not gone through the pain you are now feeling. I would suggest you read the following site…..it has helped to easy my pain that I feel.
http://www.bible.com/bibleanswers_result.php?id=110
sometimes maybe it’s God’s way to prepare the two of you for each other. have faith! of God created her for you, you will be with her eventually. i met a guy i thought i lost years ago, and now we are doing ok. i was actually thankful that i didn’t went out with him the first time we met, like in junior high. lol. have faith! trust God
Thanks for the encouragement. But as you said sometimes its actually your Judas to promote you to where God wants to put you.
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Trust God because even if what ever happens doesnt sit rite with anyone on the earth…as long as it is rite with God everything will be ok.
Hi My brother
You are so young to worry about anything. I also want to re-iterate Keith’s advice. Read mathew 6v25-33. God says do not worry about your LIFE (including all the cares like lovers),do not worry about what you are going EAT, WEAR, OR YOUR BODY. In verse 32, it highlights that the Pagans or heathen run after these things. The latter part of verse 32 indicates that YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER KNOWS THAT YOU HAVE NEED OF THESE THINGS (cars, wives, careers, money, divine health etc).
ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS IN VERSE 33 “SEEK YE FIRST THE KINGDOM OF GOD AND HIS RIGHTEOUSNESS, AND ALL THESE THINGS WILL BE ADDED UNTO YOU”. HOW DO YOU SEEK HIS KINGDOM FIRST
1. Change your focus from the girl, and Open your heart to Jesus and make Him Lord of your life, if you have not done so (Rom10v9), Because no-one shall see the kingdom of God UNLESS THEY BE BORN AGAIN. (John 3v3)
2. Represent Christ on earth and win souls – Be an active ambassador of Christ and get others to commit their lives to Him (2 Cor 5v20)
3. As you do this, God adds the things you need. What He has in store for you is mind-blowing, so rather trust Him to guide you to His plan (1 Corinthians 2v9-10, John 16v13, Proverbs 19v21)
All the best!
Hi,as a mother of 2 boys i know the day will come when they to feel this way. what i say i wiill say to my own boys and that is , never give up on love it is the one thing we have that will seperate us from the rest of the world , love with your whole heart every time sweetie let down every wall for love, and when you are broken knowing you loved with everything a whole heart they will remember that and as life goes on they will search for that love and knowing a whole hearted love like yours they will reach out and every time see our lord but you go to him as well when it hurts when the walls beguan to build around you when you beguan to long for smothing other than the lord do not lode focus return to your first love the one that gives you the ability to even love . your Lord has a well designed a one of a kind woman for you just you designed and fabercated for your call your life in him who will never get in your Lords way who will stand by you through life who will draw from the same source of love that you do now pray for her even though you do not yet know her clame her yours that she will not sway from the design of God’s will for yall and she would stay focused on our lord mesure and weigh the people in your life with his word size them up with it and remember he loves always and we walk away sometimes and find another and we greve him those expirences in life teach us they pull us in deeper behind the vail into his presants learn and draw from every oppertunity see every thing through his heart you will get through this as his side envolpe yourself in his word you will find him every time …..you will forever be apart of my families prayers be blessed little one
Mpume, God bless you for your wisdom to fight a fight with the WORD. It always wins, heals, restores hope!