Hiya everyone,
Am aware from a small countryside town in England, last year I prayed to God to find me a good man when I was about to give up he blessed me with the best man a woman would want to be with. I am 22 he is 28 we were happy the first few months together but then 2 months of us being together I got pregnant he was supportive of any decision I made I knew I was going to keep my baby.
With time things became a little rocky was getting mad at everything he does and small arguments at times I would not talk to him.At the end he broke up with me when 29 weeks pregnant. I cried myself to sleep everyday as I also realised that I might be in love with him. He raised his voice when I spoke about why it ended, that is not the man I knew, the loving and caring guy had vanished, I was looking at a complete stranger he doesn’t want to give us another go.
I said it was my hormones and things would change when the baby is here i won’t have hormones anymore coz I know am not an argumentative person, he has refused. I started praying to God coz he is the only one who knows my pain. Communicating with God has given me strength and hope and at times cheers me up. I have this weird feeling in my heart that he might give us another go but my friends tell me to leave him and move on coz he is not worthy.
He is worth crying for coz he pulled me away from the evil doings although he does not believe in God. I pray for him to accept Jesus as his Lord and saviour every day. I pray he may want me back and have a stronger relationship and forget the past as this relationship will be blessed by God.
Just asking does anyone think am crazy for praying he changes his mind and faith? Many thanks xx
Hey
Trust me, thats the only thing you can do, pray for him. Over time Ive come to learn and also speaking from a man’s point of view that there’s nothing any girl can do to really keep a man. Dont get me wrong. What I mean is that all we can do is to try seize the moment. If its sex we’ll sleep around and the urge will go. If its kids, we’ll get them and soon move on to the next ‘target’. There will always be a ‘what next?’
If you really want to find true love, find a man who’s heart is deeply in the Lord and thats both ways, applies to us men too. Occasionally he’ll get bored of you sometimes you’ll do things that annoy him. The only thing that will make your man stick to you even when you are at your lowest is the thought that ‘God loves me despite my weakness and he gave me this wonderful girl. The least I can do is Love her even when she wrongs me’.
So yes praying for him is the right thing to do. Something very important is that prayer goes with fully trusting God. Its not a way of forcing our thoughts and wishes on God. Its handing God the keys to our lives and letting Him do as He sees best. I dont mean that your boyfriend is not right for you, but maybe God wants to cut off the wrong people from your life before it becomes too late. I once read somewhere that God’s will is “Exactly what we ll do after considering all the factors”. Give God a chance.
Im not asking you to do something simple, its very difficult but with grace and prayer its possible. Ive walked over mines in my life and I wouldn’t want anybody else to go through the same. I hope this helps.
Take Care
Of course you should pray for his heart to change towards God. Not only is he your child’s father and his spiritual state going to influence your child, but it will influence you too as you maintain some type of hopefully workable relationship with him. God loves your boyfriend immensely so continue to be an example of a Christian for him and pray that he comes to accept Christ into his heart as God is the ONLY one who has the power to change stone hearts into flesh.
The bible says there can be no communion between light and darkness.
You kind of did things in the wrong order and ignored all the warnings of the bible. But all is not lost. Read the books of John and also James. Start doing things Gods way, and give your whole life to Jesus as your Lord. When we give him our mess, he forgives and gives us the best ever solution. He loves you so very much. Allow God to lead your life. Renew your mind in the Word, and He will give you a hope and a future. Love and hugs to you xx