There was a season in my life where flattery came dressed as love, and urgency masqueraded as affection. I met someone–Steve–whose words were sweet, but whose presence left me uneasy. At first, I was patient, generous, kind. But as time unfolded, God began to show me what I had overlooked.
He reminded me:
> “Yes, flattering words are big warning signs that the person isn’t genuine. The Bible warns us about flattering words. It’s important to pray for wisdom when we communicate with a person that we don’t know much. You should not feel guilty to stop it when you don’t feel comfortable with it.” > – Isa and Islam staff
That wisdom opened my eyes. Steve didn’t respect my voice. He blurred my boundaries and weaponized spiritual language to press where I had clearly said no. And so, I made a decision rooted not in fear, but in faith to block him, and others like him. To delete the messages. To reclaim the peace, I had forfeited.
> “Shew me thy ways, O LORD; teach me thy paths. Lead me in thy truth, and teach me: for thou art the God of my salvation; on thee do I wait all the day.” (Psalm 25:4–5, KJV)
What I Learned:
Not every sweet voice speaks from love. Some speak from control, confusion, or need.
Boundaries are biblical. Saying “no” is not rebellion–it’s reverence for what God entrusted to you.
God will never guide you into something that costs your clarity. Peace isn’t found in pressure.
Now, I wait with joy—not for a person, but for God’s will.
> “He only is my rock and my salvation: he is my defence; I shall not be moved.” (Psalm 62:6, KJV)
And I know: I would rather walk alone in truth than be led astray by someone who cannot hold the weight of my “no.”
To anyone else navigating this–pray for wisdom, listen when your spirit stirs, and know that God never leaves you without a way of escape.
Iqra, I love that Psalm 25. In situations like you mentioned, we have to seek God and wait on Him. He’s given you wise friends who are giving good advice too. It sounds like you took the best path.