Hi, I have been a believer for some time now. I have been active in my church until my dad got sick and died because of cancer. Since then, I felt cold. I felt so devastated by it and got traumatized from a lost. I tried to seek God once again and while I was in that process, I had a crisis about myself on what to do with my life now and family as well as with my boyfriend for more than 5 years.
He wanted to marry me, but I told him that the timing was off because of my father’s death. I asked for a breather so cooled off for a while and got back together but then since I was having my crisis, I needed to leave the country for a while to think things over.
When I got back, I realized how much my boyfriend means to me and to my life. Just in the midst that I was feeling God in my life again, my boyfriend broke up with saying that he fell out of love. After a month saying that he wanted to get married. Before the breakup, we were working things out between us.
But then he told me that when I was gone, he was detaching himself from me involuntarily because he doesn’t want to get hurt again since the last cool off happened. He felt insecure about my plans of leaving the country to work, that he couldn’t do anything about it even he didn’t want me to go. He told me that he’s been holding on to his defense mechanism of not loving me anymore because he was so hurt from the cool off.
He is very active in church by the way, he is a worship leader. I just feel that I am in wrenching pain, I am still grieving from a lost now I am losing my boyfriend who I thought we will end up getting married. He told me that it will be best for us to move on. He wanted to fix himself first, so he won’t be able to hurt anyone else anymore.
I feel so deceived. Just when the time that I was willing to work things out with him, he just gave up. I don’t know how to move on, I know that God has something in store for me and also for him, but I am in a crossroad, battling with my emotions of heart broken and trying to understand things. I’ve been seeking God since the breakup, but one way or another, my emotions is killing me. I want to understand me ex, but I feel so clueless. How can a man fall out of love wherein he was the one insisting to get married?I asked God about this and got nothing.
He kept himself busy with ministry and fellowship, but me left behind because we have the same circles of friend in church and outside church. I don’t know if he feels the same pain I have now but moving on because he has to. I don’t know what else to pray for, I ask for grace and strength for Him. I want him back so bad, and I am still waiting for him. I still want to end my life with him despite the pain. How will I be able to understand God’s will knowing that I lost the 2 important men in my life?
Please help me understand God better. I have no one to talk to right now but God. But I don’t feel him speaking to me. I am believing that he will reveal his word to me soon, but the enemy don’t want to stop from putting back some memories I had with my ex. We’ve been together for almost 6 years. I don’t know how I will be able to move on. I asked him back once, but he declined. He said that he needs his time. There are no third party involved. God can attest to that.
Please help my brothers and sisters in Christ.
I don’t want to give in to the enemy on doing things worldly.
I feel that I am in a battlefield.
My darling,
You express you want God so much in your life, and you want him to speak to you, you want him to give your ex back, you want and you want and you want.
Have you stopped to ever really listen to what God wants? You may think that something is his will, only because you force yourself to.
Have a relationship with God and learn to love Him. How would you feel if you told someone everyday, every single day you loved them, and they ask [pray] for a sports car?
Fall in love with God again and know that whatever happens its at God’s will, we may not see that at the moment, but dear trust me, it will all add up in the end.
In the mean time find something to keep you busy and help yourself grow. And always praise him even in the dark times. The devil wants you to give up when things are hard, but those are the times to pray and pray and worship.
God has given you this time for YOU.
He has a great man in store for you, and when you finally do wear that white dress on that special day you’ll know when it’s right.
God Bless You. He’s always there, just listen.
Hi,
I experienced a bad break up with my girl friend a month ago. Trust me, I really understand how you feel exactly. Even to the extend that I almost wanting to end my life. Finding no reason to life at all. During that period even until now I just keep focusing on God every single day. I keep asking and telling God to bring her back. I just know how to ask what I want from Him but never really listen to what He wants me to do. He just wants us to surrender every thing into His hand. All this happened for a reason and we will never understand God’s reason. What you can do is to learn to surrender into His hand and rest in Him. By doing that you will able to listen to Him clearly. He might be silent at this moment but trust me He knows your pain. God told me when I was in deep pain, “My beautiful child, I know how you feel and I know exactly your pain. I am not silent. I listen and I take heart of it. Wait for Me. I know what is the best for you. I, your Father, I am in pain to see you in this condition. That’s how I mould you and refine you. Do not worry. You have come back home. All your pain will bear fruit for I your Heavenly Father will see you through. Learn to surrender to Him. Follow His plan and not asking God to follow our plan. We will not change God but He will change us. He has a plan for us and He knows every thing about us. Now you need to do is to have faith in Him and surrender all your problems. Praise God and worship Him more even in this hard time. Hebrew 11:40 (God had planned something better for us so that only together with us would they be perfect.) In time of hardship, God is only interested to see our character grow. Read Bible every day. That’s God’s word for you. I got comfort from Him by reading His word and speak to Him and learn how to surrender. Trust me it’s really hard but once you surrender yourself…you will able to see how awesome is our God. Ask Holy Spirit to guide you if you need to pray and fast to seek God’s face and the trust. Every human being has to go through all this pain because our life is not a destination but a journey with Him. All the best. If you need a talk you can always write to me. (artisticman2001@yahoo.co.uk) Have FAITH in Him. That’s the only way to seek for peace and joy. Remember even in this hard time, there will be joy and peace as our Father is the creator of the peace and joy. Go back to Him and rest in Him. Jesus loves you beyond your expectation.
The saying “true love never dies” is not a mere truism. It is a fact. Being “in love” with, and loving someone are two entirely different things. The love we have for parents, our children and siblings is not often the same as that we have for our romantic interest. Most people never stop loving their parents and children even when they are cruel and selfish toward us. My point: If he “fell out of love” with you he did not love you to begin with. Thank God he caused this crisis to reveal the trap you were about to walk into.
I really need help getting by boyfriend back but he has just broke off with me and start dating someone already I really need your help. H e has already move her in.
I believe wenn your father died and you didnt turn to your boyfriend and married him during your coldest hour.
Kinda was a weak image of your relationship between you and christ, like you said wenn you came back you felt God back in your life, seems to me like you left your Boyfriend and God over there and wanted to be ALONE.
Like someone that says, Jesus first i want to go alone and think things through, why dont you wait until i come back and we can talk things through.
So the pain of your Boyfriend was probably a weak image of what you also done to Jesus Christ.
Jesus wants people who go through think and thin, if you go and do things alone, even in a marriege, what kind of marriege would that be?.
If i were you i would repent, say not only that you left your boyfriend but also left the place were your Boyfriend and Jesus offerd you a salvation, so you wouldnt of had to be alone.
Repent, say your sorry and was kinda selfish, im sry if i write it kinda harsh and cold hearted, but i have no idea how to write it any other way.
Hi Girl! I can identify with your pain, I have suffered the pain of rejection, but in hindsight it worked for my good. I became isolated in the process, and I drew near to God as my only source of divine, fautless love. I learned to know that in Him I am complete. I know it is very tough but please try and meditate on these:
1. God’s love is deep and unconditional, because God is Love. Human love has cracks, many faults and it is conditional.
2. There is a saying which says “If you love something set it free, if it is yours it will come back, if it doesn’t it never was”. God has plans for your life, and if this guy is the one, he will certainly come back because prov19v21 says MANY ARE THE PLANS IN A MAN’S HEART, BUT IT IS THE LORD’S PURPOSE THAT PREVAILS. If He is yours, God may be allowing this situation to prepare you for each other. If he is NOT yours, there is absolutely nothing you can do, you just have to rest in the divine, faultless plan of God which is better than what you can ever imagine. His word says “He does exceedingly abundantly more than what we can ask or think or imagine… Just
1.Cast this whole situation in God’s hand
2.Ask Him to comfort you and ease the pain – the Holy Spirit is our comforter John 14v16 and v26. Take comfort in the fact that your Dad is in a better place where is no pain, but only joy and singing of hymns. You will be re-united again in heaven where there will be no more hurts.
3.Ask God if He wants you to stay in the same church or to move elsewhere (John 16v13)
4. Surrender your will and desire in this matter and put it on the altar, and speak His will and you must prepare yourself that only God’s will will prevail. If the guy is not yours, God has someone better in-store for you. Sometimes God allows such things in order to save us from bigger hurts later on e.g. a divorce, or it could be a temporary setback and God will re-unite you. Since, you do not know what God knows, rather leave your desire in the altar and let His purpose WHATEVER IT IS prevail. Just keep seeking the kingdom, the right husband for you will be added (mat6v25-33).
5. Know that this is a momentary affliction and something good will come out of it (2 cor 4v16-18, Rom 8v28. For me, i spent more time with God and learned to know who I am in Him. As a result, what other people do to me does not define who I am because I am His child, the chosen one, I am seated with Him in heavenly places. Immerse yourself in worship girl – this too shall pass! You can email me if you want to chat mpume@expressive.co.za
Hello, I just wanted to input on my experience about love and lost, well you don’t know the depth of something until it is seperated, nor if or was it really love, so on your ex, God says in his word, that What he has blessed let not any man seperate them, for God’s Will in your life is your happiness, he is a God of Love and Joy! Sometimes we don’t understand in or at the moment, but everything happens for a reason, and what is more important than your ex and your lost, is the Only one thing you need to come to understand, that when God becomes that place in your heart, where the void is, he shall fill it, if you allow him to, For there is no one in this World that love’s you more than God does, nor understand or know you more than he does, but for us to realize this truth, God has to take away all that is important to you, that you attatched yourself to, so you can put where God trully belongs in your Life, as Top Priority! And the Love of your life, the Lover of your Soul, who brings you Life, the True Life, is to Live in his Love, for your loved ones, are sent to you even your husband to be to Love you, for who do you think surrounds you with Love or Care’s for you, God does, he is interested in every detail of your life, and we were created to have a relationship with him, in Intimacy, For no one can fill the Void in your Heart, only your creator can, if you trust in him, and give yourself to him, for you were never created to be seperated from him, you were created for his pleasure, his Joy, oh child of God, the Beloved. Then when you come to this understanding, does God Bless you with the desire’s of your heart, including the Husband to be, Any at that! GOD BLESS YOU AND FOR THOSE WHO READ THIS! : )
SISTHER THE LORD HAVE ANSWERED YOUR PRAYERS. WHAT YOU JUST NEED TO DO IS TO GO BEFORE HIM AND WORSHIP HIM DON’T ASK FOR ANYTHING JUST KEEP PRAISING HIM. I PRAY MAY THE WILL OF GOD BE DONE IN YOUR LIFE (AMEN)
I’m trying to get over my ex too. It happened so fast. It really sucks. I wasn’t ready for marriage but now I am and in a matter of weeks (less than a month) I was replaced. I’m really having a tough time cause I have no friends or family in this city. I’ll call my family far away but it sucks being alone. I keep praying and crying to God. Exercising helps and praising God…yes praising God helps ease the pain.