Ok I am a 19-year-old girl. I became a Christian like 3 1/2 years ago and a lot has happened since then. I had the fact of me being a Christian harshly used against me by my Christian mom, who also verbally and emotionally abuse me to the point where I didn’t want to live anymore.
I had a mental breakdown 1 1/2 year ago, I developed some sort of disorder. I’ve been a cutter for the last year and in that same year have tried to kill myself 6 times. And I’ve been so depressed that I gave myself away like spare change. And yet I am thankful to God!
I’m not gonna lie. I have been angry and hostile towards God and really cynical to other Christians because they portray such perfect lives when I’m clearly a mess. But if it weren’t for God, I would be dead right now and that’s why I’m thankful to him.
Anyway, the reason I came here is these last few years I’ve notice I’ve had more of an attraction towards other girls and it’s something I’ve always kind of known was there. These last few weeks I’ve been putting it all together and… I am gay!
So, this is me coming out but also reaching out. Because I know the bible says its wrong. I don’t know what to do.
- Can I still be a Christian even though I’m gay?
- Can I make myself straight?
- Am I distant to be alone? Is it okay?
Help me, I just don’t know.
This is a coincidence. I was just thinking about homosexuality and how God hates it. I`ve dealt with Satanists and I no longer believe in coincidences. Good comes from God and evil from the devil. Satan puts all kinds of bad thoughts into our minds. I have bad thoughts enter and as soon as I realize they come from the father of lies himself I confess, ask forgiveness and thank God in Christ Jesus’ name. Praise the Lord. Thank God I know where I stand with the Lord. The Lord Jesus Christ who died for all sinners. I thank the Lord Jesus that I don’t rely on people for my salvation. I would be on my way to hell. I trust in Jesus to save me.
1 Corinthians 6:9-11, Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the spirit of our God.
The bible is God’s word.
1 Corinthians 7:2, But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.
John 1:1, In the beginning was the Word, and the word was with God, and the Word was God.
Hebrews 4:12, For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.
Matthew 24:35, Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will never pass away.
I hope that my comments will seriously help someone in need. I will pray for you. I also pray for the ones in the occult to leave those practices and turn to Jesus. I’m protected by the blood of Jesus. Praise the Lord Jesus Christ. Thank you Jesus. I love the name Jesus. Don’t you? Remember Jesus is the only way to heaven. You are appointed to live once then die. There is no afterlife on earth. You will not come back living a better life. This is it. After you die there is no more hope.
Hey there!
First off, I want to thank you for being so honest and open about what you’re dealing with. I can give my personal testimony that God delivered me from homosexuality. No, you can’t change yourself. God wants to do everything for you. What’s happening to you is the devil wants you to spend your life living a false identity, never knowing who you truly are. What is true about you is that you are pure, holy, blameless, set apart, righteous..and all of this is because you are IN Christ. We are all in Christ, reconciled to the Father. Have you received the baptism of the Holy Spirit? When Jesus said to His disciples that it would be better for them that He return to heaven..that’s really true. A personal relationship with the Holy Spirit will radically change you from the inside out. He will meet you where you are and love on you from the inside out. You already have freedom from all demonic oppression/strongholds/etc When I said to God something like, “I submit to you that homosexuality is not good. I hate homosexuality because it’s not what you created and it’s not what’s best”…you can add your own words We are to hate what is evil and cling to what is good. Anything God didn’t create is evil. We are to be like children and trust Him that what He makes is what is good. The world makes homosexuality look so wonderful, but I can tell you is is a disaster. The Bible says in 2 Corinthians 3:17 “Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.” The Holy Spirit will only be where you invite Him to be. Invite Him to be Lord over everything. He won’t take charge and usher you into the freedom that’s already yours in Christ until you surrender. There is POWER in the name of Jesus to break EVERY chain. Don’t listen to what the devil has to say about you…that you’re good for nothing and all that junk. Like your name on here says, you are a princess in the Kingdom of God. Just sink deep in the Love that is there for you.
Absolutely you can come to Christ no matter what’s going on inside of you.
Romans 8:38-39
Once you make Him Lord, get ready for some changes.
2 Corinthians 5:17
Hi, your 1st step is speaking about it openly and secondly, you ask for help. I agree and have a similar testimony as Jesuslovesusall
I faced and went through a lot of abuse physically, mentally, emotionally, and this here is leverage to Satan and also he preys on this, and thus he can delegate a homosexually spirit to you and because you are very vulnerable and receptive at the moment you are slowly but surely giving that spirit authority over you.
So to get rid of it is 2 firstly ask Jesus Christ to come into your life make peace with your maker, being angry and hostile towards God don’t help one bit because this is what Satan usually uses but God will straighten things out for you trust me, I have been there and I’m speaking of experience.
The bible submit yourself to God. When you resist the devil must flee James 4 vs 7
Submit yourself to God sweety and He will help you. You cnt serve God and still have feelings for women. I’m not condemning you all I am saying is that when you serve God this feeling or spirit of homosexuality can’t be part of you as Jesuslovesusall has given you the scriptures in Corinthians to show that God don’t stand and entertain such a spirit and the problem is not you it’s that spirit that u need 2 resist.
Turn to Jesus sweety He is faithful and just to forgive you and cleans you from all unrighteousness if you confess your sin to Him 11 John 1 vs 9.
Please watch a poem called “My life as a stud” by Jackie Hill she struggled with homosexuality. Also follow her story it is a beautiful one. God bless you!
Throughout my life I have come to know and accept the love that God has for me.
This is not so much about being gay or bi or whatever you want to call it. This is simply to express a thought or idea on this whole topic. It cannot be helped the person who we grow in love with. Love is dependent on expressing an unconditional servitude to do what is honest and expresses the infinite love that God has for us. We as people have emotional, sexual, physical, and spiritual, needs. If those needs aren’t met, the relationship with that loved one can fall apart. So to deprive a loved one of those needs, ….(well i leave it to you the reader to fill in the blank). It has nothing to do with sex, but with an understanding that there are certain needs which would be painfully cruel to leave without regards for an importance of that need.
To love someone so much requires an open honesty between one another. If the love isn’t there, then that relationship will inevitable fall apart, likewise with honesty. If the one in the relationship feels like they have to hide a part about themselves from that person, that relationship will crumble due to the lack in the foundation of trust. So please hear me out, in a relationship were two people love one another wholeheartedly and honestly, where is the wrong in loving someone?
Even among heterosexual relationships, some men and women have suppressed their sexual needs to the point where those needs aren’t being met, thus stirring up an anger and underlying hurt causing a rift in that relationship to be torn apart.
As in every relationship there has to be a balance of meeting your loved ones needs in harmony with each one concerning: emotional needs, sexual needs, physical needs[food,water,shelter], and spiritual needs. If one need is being met yet leaving all other needs out of the question, there is a neglect in that relationship, and this would later reveal a lack of love, trust, and understanding in the relationship.
Even so concerning a “normal” heterosexual relationship, even among christian households lye’s a hypocrisy for those who practice a continual abuse whether it be sexual,verbal, emotional, spiritual abuse that will not only cause a tear in your relationship but will also affect your relationship with God, causing or creating a boundary away from his presence due to wronging and hurting your loved one.
Concerning relationships among family members, the only thing I could say in response is from scripture, “Judge no one for by the measure you use will you be judged” No one must judge one another, as judgement is reserved for God only. God knows our hearts. No family should feel that they should verbally and emotionally abuse their child to scare them “straight” in response to learning of their child’s, or brother’s, or sister’s, need to be with someone who has grown in their heart to love them, a person who just happens to be of the same sex. As it is, its already hard enough for the person to come to the reality in truth and honesty with how they feel, not only unto God but to their family. Much-less its already hard enough as it is being a teenager, so for the family it would be better to just leave your uncertainty in the matter in the hands of God. God will know what to do or how to approach and handle the situation and the reality may be that he loves them just as much as he loves you.
Loving someone has nothing to do with identifying as this or that, Loving someone has all to do with being able to share the love that God has gifted to us with someone whom we have grown in love with so that they may be constantly reminded that God loves them and that love is eternal. Love has nothing to do with gender and has more to do with the heart. Love has all to do with what is deep within your heart. Life is about sharing love with someone in honesty, trust, and compassion.
Love covers a multitude of sins [1 Peter 4:8]
With all that being said it may be possible to pray away homosexuality, since “with God all things are possible”, but keep in mind that it is the word of God that keeps us from doing what is wrong, and in being able to love someone there is reason and purpose that might be hard even for the average person to comprehend. But all in all it is meant for our spiritual growth in coming to terms with the infinite love that God has for us through his son Jesus Christ [Yeshua the Messiah]
This is not to condemn nor to entertain the idea of same sex couples relationships, but it’s more to provide a message of closure to an inner conflict, and bring meaning to an inner longing…it is an inner longing that no person can deny [concerning people from all backgrounds]. This inner longing is the satisfaction and fulfillment of a love that extends within and all throughout our soul. It is only the Love of God that can satisfy and fill that hunger and thirst- that longing and sense of belonging…so that you may know without doubt God loves you.
The message that Jesus Christ always brought fourth was the message of eternal love and that through love will change a person from the inside out to live an honest, faithful, righteous, and set apart life unto God; even if it means that our family and friends might reject us because they simply do not understand nor want to. That in itself to life like that according to the life in example through Jesus, is an honorable and worthy life of redemption and saving. Aside from our mistakes and faults, as long as we strive to live an honorable life as according to the word of God, the love will always remain. Love can never be brought about by evil, Love is the good brought fourth by God, in our hearts; to keep it and to share it. The lessons one can learn from love- true love- are extensive.
Here are some songs that you might enjoy:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7C2o0jHNRuU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1m_sWJQm2fs
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SZ-fghqc8Oo
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8yQW_4zNt_w
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mBcqria2wmg
Anonymous, it sounds like you’re using agape love and eros love interchangeably.
Would you put any limits on relationships and behavior or do you think that anything is permissible as long as people are in love?
I don’t think life is about sharing love with “someone” but about a loving relationship with Christ that compels us to love everyone.
If you have Jesus in your heart, you are a Christian. Nothing can keep you from salvation. And feeling attracted to other women is NOT a sin, it is a temptation. When you ACT on those feelings, it becomes a sin. If you know something is wrong, please stay strong and do not give in to the temptation! I will be praying for you.
I understand that you are also struggling with depression. I encourage you to cry out to God for help, because He is the only one who knows exactly what you need and the only one who can deliver you! You may not feel better immediately, and you may still have problems, but you can trust that God will love you and protect you. He will use this trial to draw you closer to Him. Again, I am praying for you.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6