I’ve had anxiety and depression for four years now. I don’t know how to overcome it. I take medicine for depression, but still, I have anxiety. I feel so out of place among kids my age. I can’t focus on what they say, and I honestly don’t care what they say.
Is that normal for anxiety?
My parents say I was happy even as a baby. But now all I can think about is what people might think of me. I’ve switched schools five times, and I think that played a factor in my anxiety. I just don’t know what to do to get out of it. It seems so much a part of me now that I can’t picture myself without it. Maybe this is just how I am.
I’m confused. Help me? I go to a counselor, yet I am still unsure of myself. It’s not fair to me that I’m going through this. I know God addresses anxiety, but basically, He just says to cast it away from your hearts. I can’t do that. Does anybody know what I mean? Please pray for me.
Hi
I do not want to address you as you have posted yourself ie “lonely and lost” because that is exactly what you want to cast off. So first of all do not call yourself this. Naming is very important, it is how God created the world, by speaking words, if you read the beginning of Genesis. Therefore what we call ourselves and speak about ourselves is very important because Jesus gave us authority to also speak into our lives.
Dear precious child of God, you do not say how old you are. However I would advise you ro confide how you are feeling with a close adult who knows you whether it is your parents or someone else, who you know also loves God and can help guide you. Yes it is true the bible says to cast your care on him, but you have to know how to do that.
First of all you need to know what is making you anxious. Are you being bullied, are you worried about school work or exams, or is there something you are worried about at home? You don’t need to answer that here, but confiding in someone will help. You say you have a counsellor, that is good, but can you trust the counsellor and tell them things, is it helping, do you need more help? Have you told your pastor or minister at church, and asked them to spend time with you praying over this, or can you do this with someone there you trust? You don’t say why you can’t cast your cares onto Jesus, but if you don’t then you are left with them and you were never meant to bear your anxiety yourself.
To cast your cares you need to first as I have said identify what they are, then you need to talk them through with God, praying about them and finally handing them over to God. You are basically saying “this is what I am worried about, here you are, now you worry about it for me”. Then you go away and leave God to deal with it. That is the theory, but it is a bit harder to do really because we always tend to worry about it again. When you feel that worry, that anxiety coming back, speak out loud, go to the loo or the bedroom if you feel silly, and say “I have given this to you, Jesus so I am NOT going to worry about it any more”, then start thinking about something that makes you happy, praying to God or singing a praise song until you can’t feel those worry thoughts any more. It’s hard at first but it gets easier the more you do it- it does have to be a deliberate effort.
Just one thought – are you upset with anyone, has someone made you mad and is there something you need to forgive? If so this will make everything much more difficult and will hold you back from getting better and if you need to do this definitely take it to your pastor/minister to help you.
Please do not think I am making this sound easy I know it isn’t, and I will be praying for you too. But if you ask Jesus when you have cast your cares onto him for his peace and joy to fill you instead then I believe you will be soon feeling better. Be kind to yourself, and give yourself time, and read Jeremiah 33.3 if you have a bible. It says “Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things which you do not know”. He l.oves you so much. God bless you
Dear dear dear
God loves us. It is true at times we feel out of place as though we have no one to love us.
Just focus on being with God. Pray to Lord Jesus,ask Him to take care of your life. Only God can take your out from this anxiety.
Read Bible,ask God to guide you each step. I am sure God will bring a change in you and this feeling of lonely and lost will be gone dear.
You are a very very precious creation of Lord Jesus. God will not let you down ever. Pray to God,He is waiting to see you come near Him.
Will pray for you dear.
God bless you!!
As Royal Diadem mentioned; we don’t know how old you are. But regardless of age (2 Timothy something) God still loves you hand has a plan for you.
Anxiety generally comes from fear of the unknown. But let me promise you something – the fact that you are here with us means that God has a plan for you – and it’s not just a second-hand plan. He designed the plan perfectly for you and you are designed perfectly for that plan. So don’t be afraid of what the future holds for you, or what has happened in the past. Don’t even be afraid of what the next few moments will bring. Just trust in God; He loves you enough to provide for all your needs.
And about feeling out of place compared to other kids of your age; Remember something. You are out of place. You are not normal. I am not normal. Most of the people who pass through this website are not normal. We are of Christ – children of God. We have a better plan, a better way. It’s like a reverse reality – an us and them. It’s a war; and we are the secret agent soldiers.
But be comforted. Even if you feel alone, you aren’t. There are ‘others’ like you out there fighting the battle as well. And even when you are alone – just pray that God will send someone along for you. I spent most of my childhood alone – praying for friends. And believe me the friends that he has now given me now are worth the wait that I had.
I’ll be praying for you!
Hi,
We often hear that ‘faith’ is the opposite of ‘fear/anxiety/worry/stress’. And that is right. But it doesn’t seem sufficient when someone tells us that. So we try to “have faith in God” but problems seem to remain.
So if I am reading your post correctly, I believe the problem is that you are looking for approval/acceptance from those around you. You see your worth from their perspective. If they don’t consider you important, then you believe you are not important. It’s a major problem today for most. Culture has placed such a great importance on HOW and WHO you ought to be and has made so many conditions on being loved and accepted. It’s always been so, but more so today.
So here is what you have to do: When God says, “Love your neighbor as yourself” he is commanding people to love others PERIOD, without conditions. That means he is commanding others to love you without condition. But people decide to find reasons not to love. They break that commandment.
That verse I quoted also says to love “as yourself”. You don’t love yourself. This is nothing more than “self-hatred.” You don’t love yourself because you don’t believe you are lovable. When being accepted by others is more important than being accepted by God, we become fearful. We’re unsure if we meet their conditions or criteria for being loved. We’re constantly fearful of their rejection of us. We fear their rejection because we seek acceptance from them and are afraid we won’t have it.
Depression usually is a result of self-hatred. So love yourself because God commands all people to love you because he has deemed you lovable. Believe that. When you do, you will find your deliverance. It may be instant or a process, but it all depends on when you whole-heartedly believe in the fact that you are lovable. You ARE! …just because your you.
Repent of self-hatred. Trust in what God said about you.
Dear Friend,
Been where you are and done that! As of this year I found out by a rude awakening that majority of bad things that happen to innocent people and followers of Christ are due to witchcraft, sorcery, powers of darkness. Sounds crazy, I know but God revealed that people of this sort can live right down the street from you or could even be relatives of yours! They smile in your face but secretly hate you without a cause and seek your demise because they are depressed, dark souled individuals. Your happiness makes these people hate you for that very reason. Many of these people are antisocial and spend their entire days praying evil upon the lives of the innocent!
My story is a long one of what recently happened to me, but I will pray this for you:
Heavenly Father, in the name of Jesus, I break through all barriers of protection around all ungodly individuals and bind every principality and spiritual wicknedness right now that is coming against this individual. All forms of ungodly prayers, witchcraft, sorcery, are null and void and destroyed at the root of its evil conception by the whirlwind of the Holy Spirit and the Blood of Jesus! Lord, send Warrior and Guardian angels to protect my friend from ALL manners of evil right now! Jesus, send your healing archangel Raphael to heal my friend’s total being right now and fill them fuller than full with your heavenly holy spirt so that NO evil will enter in! I curse all evil that tries to come against my friend or this prayer to be saturated in the Blood of Jesus, attacked by warrior angels, and the fire of the holy spirit! This prayer will be sealed in the heavens forever by the hands of God Almighty, in the name of Jesus! Amen!
This prayer sounds harsh to the enemy, but honey…the devil don’t play fair so why should the saints of God?! We as Christians have every right to call on our heavenly reinforcements! And from what I’ve experienced this year, I can tell you that prayers like this work and you WILL get results. Just pray daily for your protection. Ask God for forgiveness, then you have to honestly and whole heartedly forgive your enemies, and ask God to fill you with His holy spirit. REMEMBER, daily prayer is a MUST!! I can not stress that enough! God bless you!
Child of God, keep praying for deliverance and it will come one day. Perhaps tomorrow. Believe and you shall recieve. God will not fail you if you keep the trust in Him.
Anxiety is a sign that our minds have not been renewed. You must endevour to discipline your mind otherwise it will be like an unbridled horse. I’ve been there too. A racing mind full of worries or even meaningless dialogues and events that have happened or will happen doesn’t let the body produce enough hormones for health, and it results in more anxiety.
Once you get your mind under control the anxiety will start to lessen and eventually go away so fast you’ll wonder what happened. A good way is to read your bible 3 times a day like Daniel (now was he anxious even when thrown into the lions den?) and meditate and pray. There is some deep significance about setting aside 3 slots for God. Perhaps it keeps the mind focused during crucial periods of the day.
God bless you
Hey,don’t worry I have also been there and still struggling with it. It’s a battle but you just have to try hard to block those thoughts of anxiety and fear out of your mind. That is not God’s plan for you he wants you to have peace of mind and that is just the enemies way of trying to break you down. Cast your fears upon the Lord in prayer, and although it may not happen immediately you will see God will break you free of those bondages eventually. Remember sometimes it is is not even us holding on to God, but God holding onto us. Please read the testimony from Raeann in the Deliverance section of testimony, I hope for it to speak to your heart like it spoke to mine
read battle field of the mind and also proverbs 12:30 Know that this life is temporary and that jesus is your salvation! No greater love than god. Pray that the holy spirit teach you more on the love of god. Read john great book about gods love . God strenghthens us. Remember we must have faith! The just shall live by faith
God has been healing (delivering)me of anxiety and depression. For me, it’s a process, as I seem to be getting a little better every day. What I do, is speak scriptures over my life. For example,
“By His stripes I am healed.”
“The joy of the Lord is my strength;”
“I am the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus.”
I speak these scriptures around 50 times a day. You could pick a few and say them 10 times a day. Your words are poweful; God’s word will not return void. Speak life into your situation. “Life and death are in the power of the tongue.”
BTW… You might need some antidepressant medication, just to help a little; I am taking medication. I was able to drop one medication, as my anxiety and depression lifted a lot!