“Love is made up of two components – commitment and emotion. The commitment part, I have 100% for you,” he said. “And the second part, which is the butterflies, the feelings, the romance…that… I have none for you.”
This is how my husband, Nelson, proposed to me.
“But I’m sure the Lord will give me the love…so, are you willing to be my wife?”
Not the marriage proposal I envisioned, clearly. But I knew my future was with him, so I shed a couple of tears, and said yes.
Perhaps I am destined to be the unloved wife, I thought. But I trusted too much in God’s goodness!
“It worked out for Isaac and Rebekah in the Bible, so I think it will work out for us too,” Nelson semi-joked. “The twelve tribes of Israel came from them.” It was a small comfort.
God had told him months before that I was to be his wife, but he didn’t tell anyone. His prayer was that the Lord would reveal it independently to his parents so they could have a hand in choosing his bride. In this way he could honor both his parents and his culture.
We decided that our mutual agreement to get married according to God’s will on this day, was our engagement. No ring, no swell of romantic emotions, nada. We refer to that day as Brutal Tuesday.
We recently celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary, so things worked out. Nelson’s lack of feelings lasted all of two weeks. Since then, he has been the mushier, more affectionate partner, hands down.
God writes the best love stories!
You can read more about our love story here.
Hi Karinaphillip,
Your testimony is inspiring and has injected hope into me that God can settle one in a harmonious marriage. Two factors you mentioned -Commitment and emotions seem hard to get in a partner. Many men are very emotional but they lack the commitment that marriage requires. I remember waking up this morning crying to God on my marital settlement before i got your mail. Which looks like God’s response to me that if he can do it for KarinaPhillip he can do it for me.
I trust God that my own marital testimony will roll in shortly.
You have lifted a soul.
Thanks for sharing your testimony
God bless you.
Rebecca
I have prayed to god for forgiveness first and for another chance to do his will and for another woman who I can call my wife. I am truly sorry for disrespecting god and my marriage the first time, and I am feeling gods raft for it, but, god is good all the time and I have asked for another chance to get it right this time and I have claimed the Victory. I will be writing again just as soon as god gives me the glory. Amen?
God is great. God has given me best Husband. Even he helped me to get Job whenever I needed. I believe that God will definitely cure by health issues as well.
Praise the Lord.